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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 755700" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Beta *My quote thing is not working. I wish it was.</p><p></p><p>I agree with what the others have said.</p><p></p><p>I believe you are causing the majority of your own heartache.</p><p></p><p>Let me try to explain. Yesterday, I don't know where, I heard the following story/parable. I will try to reconstruct it here.</p><p></p><p>There was a simple peasant, with a son. The son broke his leg. A neighbor said to the father, H<em>ow very unfortunate and sad. </em>The father answered,<em> Who's to know? </em> A few days later the army came by to forcibly conscript youth to serve in the Tsar's army. The son was not taken The neighbor told the peasant/further, <em>How very fortunate and sad. </em>The father answered,<em> Who's to know?</em></p><p></p><p>There is a series of events that befall the son, both good and bad. I wish I could remember them, to better illustrate the point. (Oh. I'm remembering now. I heard this on public radio. It was a talk by the late Ram Dass.) The point is that as humans we are not equipped to understanding the meaning and consequence of each event, good or bad, that comes our way in life. G-d is.</p><p></p><p>You know this is a spiritual trial, what's happening with Josh.</p><p></p><p>Over and over again you terrorize yourself with the "worst case" scenario. You know in your heart that you have no control over any of this, and yet you try to control it. Since I have been reading your posts I can't remember one time that this has worked for you or for Josh.</p><p></p><p>To your fear of whether Josh loves you, whether Josh will be okay, <u>you know that the answer is in your own heart and in prayer.</u> In my own experience, there is no other thing that works. Josh at this point in his life, can't reassure you. On the contrary, this seems to be triggering to him. I agree with what your husband said to you: <em>"Please just honor what he wants right now, until he wants to change that." Yep, he's right. I just have a hard time "letting go." It's like losing part of yourself, and I don't know how to deal with that. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Beta. I understand totally how it feels to feel you've lost part of yourself and your life. The most important part. Because this happened to me. The way I am understanding this now is that G-d has illuminated to me through my suffering the parts of myself that I need to shine light on and in this way shine light to others through my wounds. This is what we do here for each other and for ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Beta. You are not alone. All of us are here with you and we share your pain, because we live it too. I honor you so much. Your openness and honesty. Your great love. Your commitment to your child. Your integrity. And your faith.</p><p></p><p>PS I love 200Meter's Hassidic stories (I didn't read all of them yet. I will do so later. Again and again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 755700, member: 18958"] Dear Beta *My quote thing is not working. I wish it was. I agree with what the others have said. I believe you are causing the majority of your own heartache. Let me try to explain. Yesterday, I don't know where, I heard the following story/parable. I will try to reconstruct it here. There was a simple peasant, with a son. The son broke his leg. A neighbor said to the father, H[I]ow very unfortunate and sad. [/I]The father answered,[I] Who's to know? [/I] A few days later the army came by to forcibly conscript youth to serve in the Tsar's army. The son was not taken The neighbor told the peasant/further, [I]How very fortunate and sad. [/I]The father answered,[I] Who's to know?[/I] There is a series of events that befall the son, both good and bad. I wish I could remember them, to better illustrate the point. (Oh. I'm remembering now. I heard this on public radio. It was a talk by the late Ram Dass.) The point is that as humans we are not equipped to understanding the meaning and consequence of each event, good or bad, that comes our way in life. G-d is. You know this is a spiritual trial, what's happening with Josh. Over and over again you terrorize yourself with the "worst case" scenario. You know in your heart that you have no control over any of this, and yet you try to control it. Since I have been reading your posts I can't remember one time that this has worked for you or for Josh. To your fear of whether Josh loves you, whether Josh will be okay, [U]you know that the answer is in your own heart and in prayer.[/U] In my own experience, there is no other thing that works. Josh at this point in his life, can't reassure you. On the contrary, this seems to be triggering to him. I agree with what your husband said to you: [I]"Please just honor what he wants right now, until he wants to change that." Yep, he's right. I just have a hard time "letting go." It's like losing part of yourself, and I don't know how to deal with that. [/I] Beta. I understand totally how it feels to feel you've lost part of yourself and your life. The most important part. Because this happened to me. The way I am understanding this now is that G-d has illuminated to me through my suffering the parts of myself that I need to shine light on and in this way shine light to others through my wounds. This is what we do here for each other and for ourselves. Beta. You are not alone. All of us are here with you and we share your pain, because we live it too. I honor you so much. Your openness and honesty. Your great love. Your commitment to your child. Your integrity. And your faith. PS I love 200Meter's Hassidic stories (I didn't read all of them yet. I will do so later. Again and again. [/QUOTE]
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