Leafy, you are so smart.
As soon as my daughter dropped the meth/coke, she dropped every single "friend" she had from the drug days. She had a crazy boyfriend, but tried to hide from him (she was in another state) and he found her on the internet, but he threatened her best friend so he ended up in trouble with the Wisconsin police.
When their heads are right, they change their friends and SO's. If they don't, it indicates t hat they are not completely there yet.
Like attracts like.
Leafy, you are one of the kindest most helpful person here and I'm sorry your two don't yet appreciate the gem they have for a mother. But your brain on drugs.....(((hugs))).