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Eight Year old with ADHD diagnosis, possible encopresis and ODD
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 493553" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>He's not necessarily lying about having to go.</p><p>And being treated like he is lying, is only going to compound the situation.</p><p></p><p>"... when he got up..." - change in body position often triggers signals. Maybe he really didn't recognize the situation... <em>until he got up</em>. At which point, it was too late...?</p><p></p><p>Have you read The Explosive Child? For many of us, it was a book that changed our perspective a bit... for the better. The underlying theory is that "kids do well <em>if they can"</em>... as opposed to the more general theory out there, that "kids do well <em>if they want to</em>". I found that, just that switch in underlying assumptions about my own kid... significantly reduced the amount of "lying" going on - because I began to realize that much of it, wasn't lying. Mis-communication, twisted perceptions, prior "lessons" gone wrong... there's a 100 ways at least to <em>not</em> get the message. And yes, there were a handful lf lies tossed in there... like every normal kid. </p><p></p><p>If you assume he is telling the truth about not recognizing he needs to go... then, find ways to get help. Yes, its frustrating. Horrid, for clean-up. (husband worked in nursing...) But, if you work WITH him, you may find that his frustration goes down, too.</p><p></p><p>Just something to think about...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 493553, member: 11791"] He's not necessarily lying about having to go. And being treated like he is lying, is only going to compound the situation. "... when he got up..." - change in body position often triggers signals. Maybe he really didn't recognize the situation... [I]until he got up[/I]. At which point, it was too late...? Have you read The Explosive Child? For many of us, it was a book that changed our perspective a bit... for the better. The underlying theory is that "kids do well [I]if they can"[/I]... as opposed to the more general theory out there, that "kids do well [I]if they want to[/I]". I found that, just that switch in underlying assumptions about my own kid... significantly reduced the amount of "lying" going on - because I began to realize that much of it, wasn't lying. Mis-communication, twisted perceptions, prior "lessons" gone wrong... there's a 100 ways at least to [I]not[/I] get the message. And yes, there were a handful lf lies tossed in there... like every normal kid. If you assume he is telling the truth about not recognizing he needs to go... then, find ways to get help. Yes, its frustrating. Horrid, for clean-up. (husband worked in nursing...) But, if you work WITH him, you may find that his frustration goes down, too. Just something to think about... [/QUOTE]
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