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Eight Year old with ADHD diagnosis, possible encopresis and ODD
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<blockquote data-quote="Estherfromjerusalem" data-source="post: 493727" data-attributes="member: 77"><p>Hello Maryntom, and welcome! </p><p></p><p>I just felt I had to join on this thread. Dont' laugh at me -- my difficult child is now 25 and completely clean, and living on the other side of the world to me in Australia. But his encopresis was just the worst thing that I have ever had to cope with, and I think I am still traumatized although it is every so slowly getting better for me. After being a perfect child, at the age of about four and a half he suddenly started pooping in his pants. It was non-stop until he was about thirteen and a half. I've spoken to a lot of parents of children with encopresis. One of the generally accepted things advised is to have the child checked by a pediatric gastroenterologist, just to make completely sure that everything is OK with the intestines physically and to rule out any possible illnesses such as Hirshprungs disease which is something wrong with the peristalsis (movement of the intestines to keep stuff moving down). For most children with encopresis the cause is simply a bout of constipation which goes on for too long causing damage to the nerves at the anus so the child doesn't feel it coming, and he truly doesn't have control. It can however be a result of sexual abuse, and it can also be a control issue, but they are both much less common. I know I shouldn't diagnose, but it truly sounds to me rather like a control issue with your son, although it is so difficult to tell.</p><p></p><p>For us, it ruined my son's life for all those years. In retrospect, I got the worst advice from my pediatrician (to do nothing because "it wilil pass"), and I can't forgive her for that.</p><p></p><p>If it is the "constipation" type of encopresis (which is the most common), it usually just goes away at puberty, sometime in the early teens, just like that -- the way it started, it goes away.</p><p></p><p>I wish you good luck with your doctor's appointments, and I shall be waiting to read how you are doing. I wish you a lot of strength, and also the strength to treat this problem with compassion and love. I and my husband learned the hard way that punishment and being angry just doesn't help at all, actually has the opposite effect. I learned just to have a really good supply of pants and underpants and to be completely matter-of-fact when getting him to wash. It wasn't enough to just change his clothes -- he had to shower off every time. And it was up to ten times a day. I am so grateful that it is now in the past, and I don't know how I survived. Oh yes, I do: I survived because I found this wonderful group of people on this forum! So -- I'm so sorry that you had to find us, but you have certainly come to the right place for support and understanding and not being judged.</p><p></p><p>Love, Esther</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estherfromjerusalem, post: 493727, member: 77"] Hello Maryntom, and welcome! I just felt I had to join on this thread. Dont' laugh at me -- my difficult child is now 25 and completely clean, and living on the other side of the world to me in Australia. But his encopresis was just the worst thing that I have ever had to cope with, and I think I am still traumatized although it is every so slowly getting better for me. After being a perfect child, at the age of about four and a half he suddenly started pooping in his pants. It was non-stop until he was about thirteen and a half. I've spoken to a lot of parents of children with encopresis. One of the generally accepted things advised is to have the child checked by a pediatric gastroenterologist, just to make completely sure that everything is OK with the intestines physically and to rule out any possible illnesses such as Hirshprungs disease which is something wrong with the peristalsis (movement of the intestines to keep stuff moving down). For most children with encopresis the cause is simply a bout of constipation which goes on for too long causing damage to the nerves at the anus so the child doesn't feel it coming, and he truly doesn't have control. It can however be a result of sexual abuse, and it can also be a control issue, but they are both much less common. I know I shouldn't diagnose, but it truly sounds to me rather like a control issue with your son, although it is so difficult to tell. For us, it ruined my son's life for all those years. In retrospect, I got the worst advice from my pediatrician (to do nothing because "it wilil pass"), and I can't forgive her for that. If it is the "constipation" type of encopresis (which is the most common), it usually just goes away at puberty, sometime in the early teens, just like that -- the way it started, it goes away. I wish you good luck with your doctor's appointments, and I shall be waiting to read how you are doing. I wish you a lot of strength, and also the strength to treat this problem with compassion and love. I and my husband learned the hard way that punishment and being angry just doesn't help at all, actually has the opposite effect. I learned just to have a really good supply of pants and underpants and to be completely matter-of-fact when getting him to wash. It wasn't enough to just change his clothes -- he had to shower off every time. And it was up to ten times a day. I am so grateful that it is now in the past, and I don't know how I survived. Oh yes, I do: I survived because I found this wonderful group of people on this forum! So -- I'm so sorry that you had to find us, but you have certainly come to the right place for support and understanding and not being judged. Love, Esther [/QUOTE]
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