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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 619004" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>My first take on it is that it is a well constructed accusation. I do not know your son nor do I know his way of manipulating nor his way of being honest, but from an outsiders view it sounds arrogant, condescending and blatantly judgmental and blaming of YOU. It also sounds as if he has been coached. Perhaps by your parents. They all have a vested interest in you behaving yourself so you can pay for difficult child's needs so the parents don't and difficult child doesn't. If he is serious about getting together and finding a common ground to discuss the issues, then get a good therapist and the 5 of you sit in a room with a mediator who will not get sucked in to the family dynamic. Frankly it sounds like a thoughtful manipulation. </p><p></p><p>I have A LOT of experience with mental illness..........and one thing that I have seen is that my siblings, my dad and my daughter are all very, very smart, very high IQ's, very good at getting what they want and extremely manipulative. I have rarely been a match for the ferocity of their brilliance. </p><p></p><p>Even though the words in your sons tome seem as if he wants a connection with you, there is some kind of underlying BS which feels off to me. I would proceed with caution because you are outnumbered with the 3 of them and from what you've said, none of them have your back.</p><p></p><p>I think the only way I would gather together with him or any of them is with a trained professional who would mediate. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, that is probably not what you wanted to hear. I could be completely off base here, so as always, go with your own instincts and take what you need from here and leave the rest.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 619004, member: 13542"] My first take on it is that it is a well constructed accusation. I do not know your son nor do I know his way of manipulating nor his way of being honest, but from an outsiders view it sounds arrogant, condescending and blatantly judgmental and blaming of YOU. It also sounds as if he has been coached. Perhaps by your parents. They all have a vested interest in you behaving yourself so you can pay for difficult child's needs so the parents don't and difficult child doesn't. If he is serious about getting together and finding a common ground to discuss the issues, then get a good therapist and the 5 of you sit in a room with a mediator who will not get sucked in to the family dynamic. Frankly it sounds like a thoughtful manipulation. I have A LOT of experience with mental illness..........and one thing that I have seen is that my siblings, my dad and my daughter are all very, very smart, very high IQ's, very good at getting what they want and extremely manipulative. I have rarely been a match for the ferocity of their brilliance. Even though the words in your sons tome seem as if he wants a connection with you, there is some kind of underlying BS which feels off to me. I would proceed with caution because you are outnumbered with the 3 of them and from what you've said, none of them have your back. I think the only way I would gather together with him or any of them is with a trained professional who would mediate. I'm sorry, that is probably not what you wanted to hear. I could be completely off base here, so as always, go with your own instincts and take what you need from here and leave the rest. [/QUOTE]
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