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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766447" data-attributes="member: 18958">Hello and welcome back. I hope you stay with us this time. (no pressure. no judgement)&nbsp; I applaud your firm stand. This is what it takes, in my experience.What can I say? You foretold all of this. What I believe will sound harsh and judgmental. You don't ask my view but I will tell you anyway. Her situation is a sinking cargo ship. You are a canoe. There is no way in the world you can save her or these children. Only she can save them. Anything you do, is like splashing waves in the bathtub. Either she will save her family or she won't.&nbsp; These babies, in her present situation and lifestyle would be far better off with another loving and stable family. If you were able to care for them, they would be far better off with you, only if she signed over complete parental rights. Right now she is using the children as pawns. She pawns them off to you, to get something she wants more. It's a terrible situation for you (and them) emotionally and every other way. I can't imagine how horrible it is.Your last paragraph is a powerful manifesto. You have a place to stand. And there it is.&nbsp; I am so very, very sorry it has come to this. But such is life_ Ours is only to live it the best we can. I believe your stance is honorable, responsible and powerful. If there is anything that can help those babies it is your strong stance. Be well.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766447, member: 18958"] Hello and welcome back. I hope you stay with us this time. (no pressure. no judgement) I applaud your firm stand. This is what it takes, in my experience. What can I say? You foretold all of this. What I believe will sound harsh and judgmental. You don't ask my view but I will tell you anyway. Her situation is a sinking cargo ship. You are a canoe. There is no way in the world you can save her or these children. Only she can save them. Anything you do, is like splashing waves in the bathtub. Either she will save her family or she won't. These babies, in her present situation and lifestyle would be far better off with another loving and stable family. If you were able to care for them, they would be far better off with you, only if she signed over complete parental rights. Right now she is using the children as pawns. She pawns them off to you, to get something she wants more. It's a terrible situation for you (and them) emotionally and every other way. I can't imagine how horrible it is. Your last paragraph is a powerful manifesto. You have a place to stand. And there it is. I am so very, very sorry it has come to this. But such is life_ Ours is only to live it the best we can. I believe your stance is honorable, responsible and powerful. If there is anything that can help those babies it is your strong stance. Be well. [/QUOTE]

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