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<blockquote data-quote="Worndown68" data-source="post: 766486" data-attributes="member: 28726">I wonder if CPS would step in and find a solution because I honestly don’t think your daughter will ever step up and parent her children.&nbsp; I have 3 grandchildren that are now 22,21 &amp;19.&nbsp; My daughter did everything to try and turn them against me. But now none of them have much contact with her and she is blocked from all their phones right now.&nbsp; They chose to live with their father when they divorced.&nbsp; But my husband and I had to buy a house and rent it to him for very little, until the youngest was 18.&nbsp; Then he bought it for the price we paid for it 12 years ago. It was very difficult but it was worth it for the children.&nbsp; They are loving smart young people now.&nbsp; The younger 2 don’t touch alcohol (Dad was also alcoholic but functional) the eldest has 14 months sober now and did it with AA she didn’t tell us until she was 10 months sober so that we could prepare to attend her 12 month chip meeting with her.&nbsp; She understands the familial addiction dna that she has and is determined not to follow the path of her Mom.&nbsp; If your grandchildren are placed in a foster family then my guess is that you could have contact with them ?&nbsp;&nbsp; They are so young right now but as they grow up and see you as a solid grandmother I pray that you are lucky enough to be loved and respected as I am now.&nbsp; It’s a long road but along the way I hope you enjoy good times with them.&nbsp; I never said a bad word about their mother, but I did have to listen to some horrifying things they wanted to share.&nbsp; I feel sadness for my daughter because she has lost out on so much but it was her choice.&nbsp; I hope it works out for your family, maybe your daughter will clean up her act if she loses the children and her ability to manipulate you? Big hugs and prayers for you all. I have learned how children figure things out for themselves.&nbsp;&nbsp; I once told my therapist that someone reported to me that my 4 year old granddaughter was seen running the street naked.&nbsp; I didn’t call CPS and my therapist asked me who I was trying to protect ?&nbsp; I’m not sure what she meant except that I probably should have reported it. My granddaughter will not remember it fortunately but I couldn’t report it.&nbsp; I am so grateful that she came to no harm. It was during a period of intense anger from my daughter so I could never raise it with her.&nbsp; It is totally pointless trying to talk to an alcoholic or addict.&nbsp; I have learned that lesson over and over.&nbsp; I hope your grandchildren find a stable home and that you can have peace.&nbsp; Xx</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Worndown68, post: 766486, member: 28726"] I wonder if CPS would step in and find a solution because I honestly don’t think your daughter will ever step up and parent her children. I have 3 grandchildren that are now 22,21 &19. My daughter did everything to try and turn them against me. But now none of them have much contact with her and she is blocked from all their phones right now. They chose to live with their father when they divorced. But my husband and I had to buy a house and rent it to him for very little, until the youngest was 18. Then he bought it for the price we paid for it 12 years ago. It was very difficult but it was worth it for the children. They are loving smart young people now. The younger 2 don’t touch alcohol (Dad was also alcoholic but functional) the eldest has 14 months sober now and did it with AA she didn’t tell us until she was 10 months sober so that we could prepare to attend her 12 month chip meeting with her. She understands the familial addiction dna that she has and is determined not to follow the path of her Mom. If your grandchildren are placed in a foster family then my guess is that you could have contact with them ? They are so young right now but as they grow up and see you as a solid grandmother I pray that you are lucky enough to be loved and respected as I am now. It’s a long road but along the way I hope you enjoy good times with them. I never said a bad word about their mother, but I did have to listen to some horrifying things they wanted to share. I feel sadness for my daughter because she has lost out on so much but it was her choice. I hope it works out for your family, maybe your daughter will clean up her act if she loses the children and her ability to manipulate you? Big hugs and prayers for you all. I have learned how children figure things out for themselves. I once told my therapist that someone reported to me that my 4 year old granddaughter was seen running the street naked. I didn’t call CPS and my therapist asked me who I was trying to protect ? I’m not sure what she meant except that I probably should have reported it. My granddaughter will not remember it fortunately but I couldn’t report it. I am so grateful that she came to no harm. It was during a period of intense anger from my daughter so I could never raise it with her. It is totally pointless trying to talk to an alcoholic or addict. I have learned that lesson over and over. I hope your grandchildren find a stable home and that you can have peace. Xx [/QUOTE]

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