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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 691785" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Hi, and welcome.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, once they become adults, there is very little we can do unless THEY want it to happen. Lots we can do to support them when they are moving forward, but... we are not in control.</p><p> </p><p>The mental health support systems are... well, I don't know what word to use, exactly, because there isn't an accurate one... messed up, ineffective, a :crap:shoot.</p><p> </p><p></p><p>And if the rest of the family doesn't "get" this? WE do. There is a line that cannot be crossed - and that is safety. Your own, and your other kids. Which is also his safety, really. If the situation brings out his violent tendencies, then it's best for him to not be there.</p><p> </p><p></p><p>You are doing well. You know that he is mentally ill. It isn't his fault that this is so. As a result, you do what you can. You feed him when he comes over. And IF the day comes when he actually wants medical help and appropriate shelter... I'm sure you won't mind helping him navigate the system. But you can't do that unless HE wants it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 691785, member: 11791"] Hi, and welcome. Yes, once they become adults, there is very little we can do unless THEY want it to happen. Lots we can do to support them when they are moving forward, but... we are not in control. The mental health support systems are... well, I don't know what word to use, exactly, because there isn't an accurate one... messed up, ineffective, a :crap:shoot. And if the rest of the family doesn't "get" this? WE do. There is a line that cannot be crossed - and that is safety. Your own, and your other kids. Which is also his safety, really. If the situation brings out his violent tendencies, then it's best for him to not be there. You are doing well. You know that he is mentally ill. It isn't his fault that this is so. As a result, you do what you can. You feed him when he comes over. And IF the day comes when he actually wants medical help and appropriate shelter... I'm sure you won't mind helping him navigate the system. But you can't do that unless HE wants it. [/QUOTE]
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