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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 735527" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Strangeworld, your words touched my heart....I'm so sorry you're struggling......there is no heartbreak quite like having our precious kids go off the rails while we are standing on the sidelines, powerless.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes, it is a painful experience, it hurts. The hardest thing I've ever done was to let go of my daughter. It took a lot of work on my part, a lot of support and I often felt overwhelmed. All we can do sometimes is put one foot in front of the other and hope we land on a safe ledge. And, each step can be such a challenge......and yet, you are doing exactly what all of us do.....navigating an entirely new landscape with as much grace and courage as you can muster all the while doing everything possible to help your daughter...... while learning how to care for yourself. It's not easy...but it's necessary. You're a Mom, when our kids hurt, we hurt. When our kids go south, we have to learn not to go with them.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I doubt any of us know how to do that.....we have to learn. We have to find a way to get our own lives back....that's where support comes in......it's not uncommon for us Mother's to have parenting be our priority for many years and when it comes time to let them go, it's really difficult.....especially if they're struggling in any way. Everything you're feeling is normal....this is hard stuff. What helps get through is for us to begin to put ourselves as the priority, to have our self care be the focus.....as we make that shift in focus, as we fill our own selves up with love, self acceptance and self forgiveness, we make healthier choices and are better equipped to weather these storms with our troubled kids. </p><p></p><p>In the midst of your struggles you're making good choices, attending Al Anon and finding a therapist versed in addiction and depression is terrific, keep it up. I know how hard it can be, and yet you're doing it.....you're putting one step in front of the other and you're seeking help. Good for you. We'll do our best to support you and circle our wagons around you as you travel this path. You're not alone, we understand the grief, the fear, the overwhelm, the devastation of it all......hang in there.....remember that you matter too, your feelings and your heartbreak and your sorrow matter.....find safe, supportive, caring environments for you to find your joy again. </p><p>(((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 735527, member: 13542"] Strangeworld, your words touched my heart....I'm so sorry you're struggling......there is no heartbreak quite like having our precious kids go off the rails while we are standing on the sidelines, powerless. Yes, it is a painful experience, it hurts. The hardest thing I've ever done was to let go of my daughter. It took a lot of work on my part, a lot of support and I often felt overwhelmed. All we can do sometimes is put one foot in front of the other and hope we land on a safe ledge. And, each step can be such a challenge......and yet, you are doing exactly what all of us do.....navigating an entirely new landscape with as much grace and courage as you can muster all the while doing everything possible to help your daughter...... while learning how to care for yourself. It's not easy...but it's necessary. You're a Mom, when our kids hurt, we hurt. When our kids go south, we have to learn not to go with them. I doubt any of us know how to do that.....we have to learn. We have to find a way to get our own lives back....that's where support comes in......it's not uncommon for us Mother's to have parenting be our priority for many years and when it comes time to let them go, it's really difficult.....especially if they're struggling in any way. Everything you're feeling is normal....this is hard stuff. What helps get through is for us to begin to put ourselves as the priority, to have our self care be the focus.....as we make that shift in focus, as we fill our own selves up with love, self acceptance and self forgiveness, we make healthier choices and are better equipped to weather these storms with our troubled kids. In the midst of your struggles you're making good choices, attending Al Anon and finding a therapist versed in addiction and depression is terrific, keep it up. I know how hard it can be, and yet you're doing it.....you're putting one step in front of the other and you're seeking help. Good for you. We'll do our best to support you and circle our wagons around you as you travel this path. You're not alone, we understand the grief, the fear, the overwhelm, the devastation of it all......hang in there.....remember that you matter too, your feelings and your heartbreak and your sorrow matter.....find safe, supportive, caring environments for you to find your joy again. (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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