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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 752116" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Here on this forum is way different than therapy. I don't think we are defended like we are in therapy. I am not sure why. It may be because there are so many of us. We open to the group not to one person. Actually, when I write here, I open to myself, first. When I am describing my own life, I write first of all to myself. Only secondarily do I write to you. Unless it's a response. The relationships we have here in a sense are more with ourselves than with any single person.</p><p></p><p>But I also think that the unique thing here is our shared experience. We are able to put ourselves in each other's shoes, and minds and hearts, because we are living variations of the same thing. Which is different than therapy. There is no self-other split to the same extent as therapy. We overlap. And very few of us feel we know all that much. Except about broken hearts.</p><p></p><p>Finally, I think that (some) therapists see their role as knowing things that their clients do not, and they see their role as having the prerogative to tell the client what they should believe or know. This has happened to me a number of times, where a therapist who does not know my son (nor much at all about him) has told me horribly painful "truths" about him and then put me down because I would not accept their "truth." My friends who are therapists, who also don't know my son, are also apt to tell me hard truths that they can see and I can't. They don't hesitate, sometimes, one bit, to hurt me. Most everybody here would never want to hurt me unnecessarily. (That's why most of us are so careful not to diagnose, on this forum. It used to be done more. Thank goodness it's not so common anymore.)</p><p></p><p>I know this is different than what you are expressing about your own therapist but I know I close down too. To ward off pain I can't bear. I do it way less here. I open up way more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 752116, member: 18958"] Here on this forum is way different than therapy. I don't think we are defended like we are in therapy. I am not sure why. It may be because there are so many of us. We open to the group not to one person. Actually, when I write here, I open to myself, first. When I am describing my own life, I write first of all to myself. Only secondarily do I write to you. Unless it's a response. The relationships we have here in a sense are more with ourselves than with any single person. But I also think that the unique thing here is our shared experience. We are able to put ourselves in each other's shoes, and minds and hearts, because we are living variations of the same thing. Which is different than therapy. There is no self-other split to the same extent as therapy. We overlap. And very few of us feel we know all that much. Except about broken hearts. Finally, I think that (some) therapists see their role as knowing things that their clients do not, and they see their role as having the prerogative to tell the client what they should believe or know. This has happened to me a number of times, where a therapist who does not know my son (nor much at all about him) has told me horribly painful "truths" about him and then put me down because I would not accept their "truth." My friends who are therapists, who also don't know my son, are also apt to tell me hard truths that they can see and I can't. They don't hesitate, sometimes, one bit, to hurt me. Most everybody here would never want to hurt me unnecessarily. (That's why most of us are so careful not to diagnose, on this forum. It used to be done more. Thank goodness it's not so common anymore.) I know this is different than what you are expressing about your own therapist but I know I close down too. To ward off pain I can't bear. I do it way less here. I open up way more. [/QUOTE]
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