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Every interaction escalates to a blow up fight..what do we do, not talk to difficult child ever?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 596142" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Mine used to do asking questions he did know (or should had known) the answer a lot too, when he was little. I always thought it was about one of the two. Either it was anxiety and he needed to make sure those things were still the same. That A was A was A was A no matter what. Or maybe he actually didn't know the answers. His thought processes were different. Maybe he actually wasn't sure if A was still the A, if it was pink. Or if it was raining outside. Or if he was feeling different than when A still was an A last time. <span style="font-size: 9px">(And if my difficult child ever happens to read this: Yes, sun still is due south at (solar) noon in northern hemisphere. And yes solar noon and noon are different things and I do know you think it is stupid. Some think it is practical. And no, I can't absolutely guarantee sun will be due south at (solar) noon also tomorrow, but it <strong>is</strong> highly likely. And now: please don't ask again any time soon!) </span></p><p></p><p>As difficult as it is, I found that best way was simply give an aswer. Again and again. I imagined myself as a record player at times. Same, short, simple answer with unemotional voice after few times. Not getting angry or frustrated, not engaging, just giving that short answer. </p><p></p><p>PlainJane, my advice to the situation you told would be not engaging also. Make picking a fight difficult for him. When you want to give him positive attention, just do so. Go there and say hi. If you ask questions, ask ones that are open and don't have right answer. For example when he asked 'what movie?' instead of 'accusing' him of lying/asking questions he knows an answer; "oh, I thought you were watching Chicken Little", would make it more difficult for him to pick fight. And after he would have told he wasn't, you could had asked, what he was doing then and if he would have answered he was not doing anything, you could have told him that it sometimes nice to just chill. And so on. There are enough real reasons you have fight with the kid, him denying watching Chicken Little while watching it isn't the reason to engage into the argument for.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 596142, member: 14557"] Mine used to do asking questions he did know (or should had known) the answer a lot too, when he was little. I always thought it was about one of the two. Either it was anxiety and he needed to make sure those things were still the same. That A was A was A was A no matter what. Or maybe he actually didn't know the answers. His thought processes were different. Maybe he actually wasn't sure if A was still the A, if it was pink. Or if it was raining outside. Or if he was feeling different than when A still was an A last time. [SIZE=1](And if my difficult child ever happens to read this: Yes, sun still is due south at (solar) noon in northern hemisphere. And yes solar noon and noon are different things and I do know you think it is stupid. Some think it is practical. And no, I can't absolutely guarantee sun will be due south at (solar) noon also tomorrow, but it [B]is[/B] highly likely. And now: please don't ask again any time soon!) [/SIZE] As difficult as it is, I found that best way was simply give an aswer. Again and again. I imagined myself as a record player at times. Same, short, simple answer with unemotional voice after few times. Not getting angry or frustrated, not engaging, just giving that short answer. PlainJane, my advice to the situation you told would be not engaging also. Make picking a fight difficult for him. When you want to give him positive attention, just do so. Go there and say hi. If you ask questions, ask ones that are open and don't have right answer. For example when he asked 'what movie?' instead of 'accusing' him of lying/asking questions he knows an answer; "oh, I thought you were watching Chicken Little", would make it more difficult for him to pick fight. And after he would have told he wasn't, you could had asked, what he was doing then and if he would have answered he was not doing anything, you could have told him that it sometimes nice to just chill. And so on. There are enough real reasons you have fight with the kid, him denying watching Chicken Little while watching it isn't the reason to engage into the argument for. [/QUOTE]
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