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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 707758" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>What a horrible and somewhat unique situation as far as any posts I have read here especially recently.</p><p>Are you sure Joe is not using?</p><p>If you are sure, I would help Joe (minimally and temporarily) find another place to live.</p><p>Can he live with a friend for a few months?</p><p>Maybe he can make arrangements to live with a friend who has a spare bedroom if he offered to pay a low, but reasonable rent? If it were 1-3 months maybe it would be do-able. And maybe this would give him time to save a little money and find a good deal on an apartment.</p><p>This is just a random suggestion. But, it might take creativity to get him out of his Dad's house.</p><p>Maybe you can help him very temporarily with housing. Maybe offer to pay half rent somewhere for a maximum for three months and three months ONLY. Whatever you decide to do...make it abundantly clear and stick to it. The key words are : help and temporarily and if and only if he is sober. in my humble opinion, all of these boundaries are urgent!!!!!</p><p>Living with a user can only spell trouble for him.</p><p>And enabling him by helping too much or for too long, can only spell trouble for both of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 707758, member: 4152"] What a horrible and somewhat unique situation as far as any posts I have read here especially recently. Are you sure Joe is not using? If you are sure, I would help Joe (minimally and temporarily) find another place to live. Can he live with a friend for a few months? Maybe he can make arrangements to live with a friend who has a spare bedroom if he offered to pay a low, but reasonable rent? If it were 1-3 months maybe it would be do-able. And maybe this would give him time to save a little money and find a good deal on an apartment. This is just a random suggestion. But, it might take creativity to get him out of his Dad's house. Maybe you can help him very temporarily with housing. Maybe offer to pay half rent somewhere for a maximum for three months and three months ONLY. Whatever you decide to do...make it abundantly clear and stick to it. The key words are : help and temporarily and if and only if he is sober. in my humble opinion, all of these boundaries are urgent!!!!! Living with a user can only spell trouble for him. And enabling him by helping too much or for too long, can only spell trouble for both of you. [/QUOTE]
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