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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 446047" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Oh, sweetie, I know this is hard. You are VERY right to not go see him. My mother had a MAJOR nervous breakdown about 2 yrs after my bro was in jail. A substantial part of it was the trauma of having to deal with all the jail stuff. Bro had it EASY in jail because the guy in charge just one step down from the county warden - the guy who actually did the main supervision - was a family friend. He let them see bro briefly one night even though it wasn't visiting night and he let them give him toiletries and basics even though it wasn't one of the 2 days that they were allowed to be given those things. My dad went to the bail office one night, to the court one night and was there when the cops called both nights. My mom had to handle everything else alone because my dad would not take one single day off of work - and he had over a full YEAR of sick days built up. It was just way too much for one person to handle.</p><p></p><p>You have done enough for him. I don't know if you want to do commisary money or not, but otherwise both you and husband should mostly stay away. Let him handle his business and hopefully grow from it. </p><p></p><p>I am proud that you can see what you need to do for your health. I hope that this spurs daughter in law to make some changes to push them both to a healthier life. Lots of hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 446047, member: 1233"] Oh, sweetie, I know this is hard. You are VERY right to not go see him. My mother had a MAJOR nervous breakdown about 2 yrs after my bro was in jail. A substantial part of it was the trauma of having to deal with all the jail stuff. Bro had it EASY in jail because the guy in charge just one step down from the county warden - the guy who actually did the main supervision - was a family friend. He let them see bro briefly one night even though it wasn't visiting night and he let them give him toiletries and basics even though it wasn't one of the 2 days that they were allowed to be given those things. My dad went to the bail office one night, to the court one night and was there when the cops called both nights. My mom had to handle everything else alone because my dad would not take one single day off of work - and he had over a full YEAR of sick days built up. It was just way too much for one person to handle. You have done enough for him. I don't know if you want to do commisary money or not, but otherwise both you and husband should mostly stay away. Let him handle his business and hopefully grow from it. I am proud that you can see what you need to do for your health. I hope that this spurs daughter in law to make some changes to push them both to a healthier life. Lots of hugs. [/QUOTE]
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