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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 746184" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks. I dont get my entire family. I was the scapegoat</p><p></p><p>Example. My father, whom I love simply for loving me the same as my siblings, said the most horrible, abusive, unlovable things to all of us and was never sorry at all, but my siblings still loved and forgave him. Even my mother, who divorced him, was nicer to him than me. </p><p></p><p>I think I was what is called The Designated Patient of the family. My mom was head honcho of our family and she picked me as the devil. She neefed one.</p><p></p><p> I had problems, but I tried all my life to make them better. She decided I was unlovable. Being a mother myself, I dont get her. Or my brother and sister who allowed Dads extreme abuse yet still loved him. It was obviously about me (shrug) and it started with my mother. And it wasnt particularly logical.</p><p></p><p>Two therapists and one psychiatrist that I described Mother and sister to said they are borderline. I think so. Plus sister also has a lifelong eating disorder. I no longer blame myself....it was the family dysfunction. </p><p></p><p>My mother would have done to Ben what she did to me.....ridicule, disowning, disineritance. Thats who and what she was. She was NOT right.</p><p></p><p> l</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 746184, member: 1550"] Thanks. I dont get my entire family. I was the scapegoat Example. My father, whom I love simply for loving me the same as my siblings, said the most horrible, abusive, unlovable things to all of us and was never sorry at all, but my siblings still loved and forgave him. Even my mother, who divorced him, was nicer to him than me. I think I was what is called The Designated Patient of the family. My mom was head honcho of our family and she picked me as the devil. She neefed one. I had problems, but I tried all my life to make them better. She decided I was unlovable. Being a mother myself, I dont get her. Or my brother and sister who allowed Dads extreme abuse yet still loved him. It was obviously about me (shrug) and it started with my mother. And it wasnt particularly logical. Two therapists and one psychiatrist that I described Mother and sister to said they are borderline. I think so. Plus sister also has a lifelong eating disorder. I no longer blame myself....it was the family dysfunction. My mother would have done to Ben what she did to me.....ridicule, disowning, disineritance. Thats who and what she was. She was NOT right. l [/QUOTE]
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