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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 664402" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT, you need to see here how you put yourself down. </p><p></p><p>Each of us takes a risk to subject ourselves to the criticism or ridicule of others by posting...or to other kinds of misuse. And it is true, that each of us has revealed in our posts, the criticism or blame we anticipate in our own heads, by posting as we have.</p><p></p><p>That is normal. I think. We are taking risks. It is realistic to expect reaction or response.</p><p></p><p>Each of us has a unique personality, our own strengths, weakness and bias.</p><p></p><p>I have worried, too, that because there are three of us, that there is the risk of triangulation....even in if it is just in one or more of our minds. </p><p></p><p>But we need to remind ourselves that the 3 legged stool is of the most stable of designs.</p><p></p><p>Each of us has a dose of cruelty or sadism. Well-hidden, and usually, in our cases, turned against ourselves. </p><p></p><p>To anticipate that Cedar and I would hurt you, is to hurt yourself, Serenity, because should one of us do that Serenity it would only reflect very badly on us. <em>You would not have deserved it.</em> We would have revealed our own weakness, or smallness. We would have revealed our own secret shame, not yours. </p><p></p><p>You would not deserve that. </p><p></p><p>I know in my case I have two types of sensitivities that show up in posting and to responding to posts of others.</p><p></p><p>I am sensitive where I have doubt in myself, or where I am secretly afraid. </p><p></p><p>I can sometimes feel inpatient, and respond as such, to weakness (when it is like my own.)</p><p></p><p>I see where I have done this. I am aware of it. And until I fix it in me, I will take responsibility.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, I do not think it is wrong to tell the truth, either. So that other people can help and protect us. From ourselves. Even if it is not their responsibility to do so. </p><p> Thank you, Serenity. Right now I am still recuperating from my war wounds at the hospital. I am waiting for my service dog to arrive (I hope nobody that represents wounded warriors gets mad at me. I just want a dog. I want a brown lab. Maybe a German Shepherd. He or she will go with me everywhere.)</p><p></p><p>Actually, this is not a bad idea. Maybe I can get a therapy dog, with a letter from the doctor. So that I can get up from the bed. My dog will arrive already specially trained to push me out of bed. Or pull me out. Or get in bed with me. I much prefer that idea.</p><p></p><p>See, SWOT, do not be so hard on yourself. Right now I am waiting to be denounced by disabled veterans and their supporters, throughout the land.</p><p></p><p>And I do not care. I want my service dog. I will not back down. </p><p></p><p>What. are. you. going. do. about. it. America? After all, Serenity says I am a hero.</p><p></p><p>I learned how to do that from Carly Fiorina. I mean this: She. did. that. on. Twitter. I am doing it here. It means saying something in a. very. powerful. voice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 664402, member: 18958"] SWOT, you need to see here how you put yourself down. Each of us takes a risk to subject ourselves to the criticism or ridicule of others by posting...or to other kinds of misuse. And it is true, that each of us has revealed in our posts, the criticism or blame we anticipate in our own heads, by posting as we have. That is normal. I think. We are taking risks. It is realistic to expect reaction or response. Each of us has a unique personality, our own strengths, weakness and bias. I have worried, too, that because there are three of us, that there is the risk of triangulation....even in if it is just in one or more of our minds. But we need to remind ourselves that the 3 legged stool is of the most stable of designs. Each of us has a dose of cruelty or sadism. Well-hidden, and usually, in our cases, turned against ourselves. To anticipate that Cedar and I would hurt you, is to hurt yourself, Serenity, because should one of us do that Serenity it would only reflect very badly on us. [I]You would not have deserved it.[/I] We would have revealed our own weakness, or smallness. We would have revealed our own secret shame, not yours. You would not deserve that. I know in my case I have two types of sensitivities that show up in posting and to responding to posts of others. I am sensitive where I have doubt in myself, or where I am secretly afraid. I can sometimes feel inpatient, and respond as such, to weakness (when it is like my own.) I see where I have done this. I am aware of it. And until I fix it in me, I will take responsibility. On the other hand, I do not think it is wrong to tell the truth, either. So that other people can help and protect us. From ourselves. Even if it is not their responsibility to do so. Thank you, Serenity. Right now I am still recuperating from my war wounds at the hospital. I am waiting for my service dog to arrive (I hope nobody that represents wounded warriors gets mad at me. I just want a dog. I want a brown lab. Maybe a German Shepherd. He or she will go with me everywhere.) Actually, this is not a bad idea. Maybe I can get a therapy dog, with a letter from the doctor. So that I can get up from the bed. My dog will arrive already specially trained to push me out of bed. Or pull me out. Or get in bed with me. I much prefer that idea. See, SWOT, do not be so hard on yourself. Right now I am waiting to be denounced by disabled veterans and their supporters, throughout the land. And I do not care. I want my service dog. I will not back down. What. are. you. going. do. about. it. America? After all, Serenity says I am a hero. I learned how to do that from Carly Fiorina. I mean this: She. did. that. on. Twitter. I am doing it here. It means saying something in a. very. powerful. voice. [/QUOTE]
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