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Family of Origin (FOO) Support Thread Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 664550" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT, that is a great business idea. The thing is everybody is a survivor of their FOO. Nobody feels they got good enough, in their heart of hearts.</p><p></p><p>I got to know well my mother's estate attorney, because of the issues before her death involving my sister, and as executor of her estate. And now he is my attorney for my trust.</p><p></p><p>We were talking about my sister, and her actions towards my mother at the end. I tried to excuse my sister, a bit, and said, "Well, she felt she did not have a good enough Mother."</p><p></p><p>"Nobody does. Nobody gets what they really need. They make peace with it and go on. That is what growing up is."</p><p></p><p>This is a guy whose job is dealing with deaths of parents, and children who are left. He says everybody has to come to grips with what they did not have, and wanted. We are all survivors.</p><p></p><p>Serenity, if you were to accept that, that you are like the rest of us in that, you would be able to stare your mother down. She needed you to carry her pain and shame...for her.... Don't do it anymore. Don't. We are all damaged. That is what it is to be human.</p><p></p><p>I believe your mother loved you. She hated herself. She could not love you in the way you needed because she was broken. It was never you. It was always her. Who was the broken one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 664550, member: 18958"] SWOT, that is a great business idea. The thing is everybody is a survivor of their FOO. Nobody feels they got good enough, in their heart of hearts. I got to know well my mother's estate attorney, because of the issues before her death involving my sister, and as executor of her estate. And now he is my attorney for my trust. We were talking about my sister, and her actions towards my mother at the end. I tried to excuse my sister, a bit, and said, "Well, she felt she did not have a good enough Mother." "Nobody does. Nobody gets what they really need. They make peace with it and go on. That is what growing up is." This is a guy whose job is dealing with deaths of parents, and children who are left. He says everybody has to come to grips with what they did not have, and wanted. We are all survivors. Serenity, if you were to accept that, that you are like the rest of us in that, you would be able to stare your mother down. She needed you to carry her pain and shame...for her.... Don't do it anymore. Don't. We are all damaged. That is what it is to be human. I believe your mother loved you. She hated herself. She could not love you in the way you needed because she was broken. It was never you. It was always her. Who was the broken one. [/QUOTE]
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