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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 619033" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I wonder whether it would be helpful to us to post about issues with our Families of Origin as we see those troubled relationships affecting our kids. </p><p></p><p>How are our toxic parents and sibs affecting, how have these relationships dirtied or downright poisoned, our own childrens' view of themselves and of the world?</p><p></p><p>I think there is alot of material here that, once unearthed, may help us understand the dynamic between ourselves and our children.</p><p></p><p>I will begin.</p><p></p><p>difficult child daughter was 14. We brought her to a dual-diagnostic. They kept her. I was not going to tell my parents, at all. husband, who never did have a clue when it came to the toxicity in my family of origin, insisted that I call them to tell them what had happened. In husband's family, they circle the wagons when one of them is in trouble. In mine? They break out the champagne and sharpen the knives.</p><p></p><p>The first words out of my mother's mouth ~ as though she'd known this opportunity was coming and prepared for it all her life: "Well, I guess you weren't such a good mother, after all, were you?"</p><p></p><p>That question set the tone of my belief in where I had gone wrong, in what had happened to difficult child daughter, for the next twenty years.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 619033, member: 17461"] I wonder whether it would be helpful to us to post about issues with our Families of Origin as we see those troubled relationships affecting our kids. How are our toxic parents and sibs affecting, how have these relationships dirtied or downright poisoned, our own childrens' view of themselves and of the world? I think there is alot of material here that, once unearthed, may help us understand the dynamic between ourselves and our children. I will begin. difficult child daughter was 14. We brought her to a dual-diagnostic. They kept her. I was not going to tell my parents, at all. husband, who never did have a clue when it came to the toxicity in my family of origin, insisted that I call them to tell them what had happened. In husband's family, they circle the wagons when one of them is in trouble. In mine? They break out the champagne and sharpen the knives. The first words out of my mother's mouth ~ as though she'd known this opportunity was coming and prepared for it all her life: "Well, I guess you weren't such a good mother, after all, were you?" That question set the tone of my belief in where I had gone wrong, in what had happened to difficult child daughter, for the next twenty years. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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