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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 619415" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>You know, I am wondering whether bittykitties is right. In the sense that as we learn detachment skills, we become healthier people <u>whether the kids change or not.</u> When I think about that healthy mom I am always imagining, that mom who doesn't blame herself for what her kids does...I just always assumed her kids would come out perfect. But what would that mom do if she had a difficult child? </p><p></p><p>And then it occurred to me that I know a mom who had like, six kids. Two of them were/are/and forever will be difficult children. I have posted about her, before. One of her kids is a millionaire. Three are doing just great.</p><p></p><p>And two are difficult children.</p><p></p><p>One of the difficult child kids is worse than the other. </p><p></p><p>Know what she says about that?</p><p></p><p>She lists the kids off and finishes with info on the worst of the two difficult children in the following way: "Doesn't have a pot to p**** in or a window to throw it out of."</p><p></p><p>But she does not suffer over her children's choices or their lives. She is a very nice lady, living her own life. She looks happy. The only things she says about difficult child kids ~ or any kids ~ is that who knows why they do what they do. All of hers were raised the same way and then, she goes into the story about the pot and the window.</p><p></p><p>That is a healthy response.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 619415, member: 17461"] You know, I am wondering whether bittykitties is right. In the sense that as we learn detachment skills, we become healthier people [U]whether the kids change or not.[/U] When I think about that healthy mom I am always imagining, that mom who doesn't blame herself for what her kids does...I just always assumed her kids would come out perfect. But what would that mom do if she had a difficult child? And then it occurred to me that I know a mom who had like, six kids. Two of them were/are/and forever will be difficult children. I have posted about her, before. One of her kids is a millionaire. Three are doing just great. And two are difficult children. One of the difficult child kids is worse than the other. Know what she says about that? She lists the kids off and finishes with info on the worst of the two difficult children in the following way: "Doesn't have a pot to p**** in or a window to throw it out of." But she does not suffer over her children's choices or their lives. She is a very nice lady, living her own life. She looks happy. The only things she says about difficult child kids ~ or any kids ~ is that who knows why they do what they do. All of hers were raised the same way and then, she goes into the story about the pot and the window. That is a healthy response. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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