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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 661737" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>They disregarded your parents. And they disregarded you. If they felt that your parents were at risk, or if they felt that your parents lacked capacity to deal with your son, they needed to involve you. Either of these concerns is serious. Regardless of whether you would have messed things up.</p><p></p><p>You would have stopped them from hurting your parents.</p><p></p><p>In an early post, right after the tantrum, I asked you if you had thought of getting your son out of your parents house.</p><p></p><p>You said no. Because of respect for your parents. You pointedly said, it is their household and their decision. It is their business what to do. They will handle it.</p><p></p><p>Had your siblings come to you, all of this heartache could have been avoided.</p><p></p><p>We can understand their reason to keep you out of the loop. But it was wrong. You equally are a child of your parents.</p><p></p><p>I know others disagree with me. But this happened to me and it happened to my Mother. It was horrible. And I take it personally.</p><p></p><p>The thing is they acted unilaterally. There is never a good reason for siblings to do that, and to leave anybody out. Where the health and welfare of their parents are at stake.</p><p></p><p>My sister hospitalized my mother involuntarily for her own reasons. It was unnecessary and it was cruel. She did not tell me.</p><p></p><p>It set in motion circumstances that led to disaster, that were irrevocable and probably can never be fixed.</p><p></p><p>In your case, the siblings acted badly for reasons that seem on the face of it to have been protective of your parents.</p><p></p><p>Even without ill intent they ended up hurting your parents. And you, whether or not you feel it or say it.</p><p></p><p>It is never right to do the wrong thing.</p><p></p><p>The ends never justify the means.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry your Mom got hurt. That your family got hurt.</p><p></p><p>I for one think it was avoidable. I hope they all learn.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 661737, member: 18958"] They disregarded your parents. And they disregarded you. If they felt that your parents were at risk, or if they felt that your parents lacked capacity to deal with your son, they needed to involve you. Either of these concerns is serious. Regardless of whether you would have messed things up. You would have stopped them from hurting your parents. In an early post, right after the tantrum, I asked you if you had thought of getting your son out of your parents house. You said no. Because of respect for your parents. You pointedly said, it is their household and their decision. It is their business what to do. They will handle it. Had your siblings come to you, all of this heartache could have been avoided. We can understand their reason to keep you out of the loop. But it was wrong. You equally are a child of your parents. I know others disagree with me. But this happened to me and it happened to my Mother. It was horrible. And I take it personally. The thing is they acted unilaterally. There is never a good reason for siblings to do that, and to leave anybody out. Where the health and welfare of their parents are at stake. My sister hospitalized my mother involuntarily for her own reasons. It was unnecessary and it was cruel. She did not tell me. It set in motion circumstances that led to disaster, that were irrevocable and probably can never be fixed. In your case, the siblings acted badly for reasons that seem on the face of it to have been protective of your parents. Even without ill intent they ended up hurting your parents. And you, whether or not you feel it or say it. It is never right to do the wrong thing. The ends never justify the means. I am sorry your Mom got hurt. That your family got hurt. I for one think it was avoidable. I hope they all learn. [/QUOTE]
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