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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 647576" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Most kids your son's age are feeding themselves. My daughter, who is eighteen, was in sports in high school has been cooking for herself before the rest of us ate due to her difficult schedule since she was fourteen. My son who is autistic has a limited variety of food he will eat so he is a very good cook. He is 21, and, as I said, has autistic spectrum disorder, a part time job, and lives in his own apartment, funded by himself. Most adult children like being independent.</p><p></p><p>Now...I'd like to weigh in on whether or not one can choose to not use heroin. I am a compulsive researcher and when something comes into my life, I read up on it. Although my daughter's drugs of choice were close to being as dangerous as heroin, they weren't heroin so I just sort of stumbled upon things about heroin by reading about the stuff she took. Along the way, it seems that the physical addiction to heroin is so painful and the urge so compelling at the same time that I doubt your son can decide, "Gee, today I quit. That's it. No more. I'll never shoot up again."</p><p></p><p>I am thinking, from my reading, that his best chance is getting on a methodone program. It is far better to be addicted to methadone than heroin. It is unlikely he will ever live an opiate free life. You hear about those who quit cigarettes, as hard as that is. You hear about those who stop drinking and never drink again. You hear about pot addicts who quit completely. You hear about people quitting speed (my daughter did). But you don't really hear about heroin addicts quitting all alone, without medical help, or just because Mom is being comforting to the person. If it were my kid, I'd be suggesting a methadone program. At least one can function on methadone. Heroin has a huge fatality rate. Now your son will always be prone to craving it, but some less terrible drugs can stop him from being an every day heroin user and can help him live a normal life. </p><p></p><p>Lots of people take medication. I need an antidepressant to function. I'd rather take it than be so depressed I am useless. It is not defeat if your son quits heroin by using something milder to take away the cravings. Has he ever approached you with that option? I think it is loving to tell a heroin addict that he will be loved and valued if he made things better by taking methadone or that other drug (always forget it's name) that stops the heroin cravings. </p><p></p><p>Look, I may be giving you totally insane and stupid advice and the other posters will tell me I am if I am. I just like you and hope your son can get a handle on the addiction, no matter how he has to do it. I can feel your heartbreak in every post of yours yet your son is on such a dangerous path. I just hope he can get to a safer place, however he does it. </p><p></p><p>Do not feel guilty. You do him no favors if you make it comfortable and easy for him to shoot up. Eventually his kids will see it, and he could leave something dangerous around...he should not be near his kids at all nor in your house since he was using in your bathroom. What if he leaves a dirty spoon around and one of the kids licks it?</p><p></p><p>Please take care of yourself. Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 647576, member: 1550"] Most kids your son's age are feeding themselves. My daughter, who is eighteen, was in sports in high school has been cooking for herself before the rest of us ate due to her difficult schedule since she was fourteen. My son who is autistic has a limited variety of food he will eat so he is a very good cook. He is 21, and, as I said, has autistic spectrum disorder, a part time job, and lives in his own apartment, funded by himself. Most adult children like being independent. Now...I'd like to weigh in on whether or not one can choose to not use heroin. I am a compulsive researcher and when something comes into my life, I read up on it. Although my daughter's drugs of choice were close to being as dangerous as heroin, they weren't heroin so I just sort of stumbled upon things about heroin by reading about the stuff she took. Along the way, it seems that the physical addiction to heroin is so painful and the urge so compelling at the same time that I doubt your son can decide, "Gee, today I quit. That's it. No more. I'll never shoot up again." I am thinking, from my reading, that his best chance is getting on a methodone program. It is far better to be addicted to methadone than heroin. It is unlikely he will ever live an opiate free life. You hear about those who quit cigarettes, as hard as that is. You hear about those who stop drinking and never drink again. You hear about pot addicts who quit completely. You hear about people quitting speed (my daughter did). But you don't really hear about heroin addicts quitting all alone, without medical help, or just because Mom is being comforting to the person. If it were my kid, I'd be suggesting a methadone program. At least one can function on methadone. Heroin has a huge fatality rate. Now your son will always be prone to craving it, but some less terrible drugs can stop him from being an every day heroin user and can help him live a normal life. Lots of people take medication. I need an antidepressant to function. I'd rather take it than be so depressed I am useless. It is not defeat if your son quits heroin by using something milder to take away the cravings. Has he ever approached you with that option? I think it is loving to tell a heroin addict that he will be loved and valued if he made things better by taking methadone or that other drug (always forget it's name) that stops the heroin cravings. Look, I may be giving you totally insane and stupid advice and the other posters will tell me I am if I am. I just like you and hope your son can get a handle on the addiction, no matter how he has to do it. I can feel your heartbreak in every post of yours yet your son is on such a dangerous path. I just hope he can get to a safer place, however he does it. Do not feel guilty. You do him no favors if you make it comfortable and easy for him to shoot up. Eventually his kids will see it, and he could leave something dangerous around...he should not be near his kids at all nor in your house since he was using in your bathroom. What if he leaves a dirty spoon around and one of the kids licks it? Please take care of yourself. Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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