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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 568204" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>buddy- And you've hit pretty much on my internal problems... Is it my problem? I feel that it IS my problem, you know? If it's not my problem, if I don't try HARDER, then who's problem is it and who WILL try for difficult child? This has been my mentality and what has kept me going for so long. Then comes in the knowing that nothing has gotten better, it is getting worse and getting MUCH worse for the games that his biomom plays. </p><p></p><p>I told husband and the therapist the other day (sort of broke down) that I have been doing this since difficult child was 3, and nothing has changed (yes, behaviors have morphed but not gone away). therapist told me that I am taking things too personally and difficult child has changed since he was 3 and it's not comparable to him now, at the age of 9. I disagreed with everything he said... maybe I am taking things personally (?) but his actions are REALLY causing damage to our family and especially his brother. difficult child sits and tells easy child (who is 3 now) how much he hates him, has threatened to kill him with a knife when he is sleeping, hits/hurts him constantly (since he was born) and my easy child now says "I'm stupid. I'm dumb." and always asks difficult child if he loves him. Sometimes he gets a nice answer, but usually difficult child just ignores him rather than say he loves him. I forgot to add that during his rage the other day, difficult child blurted out "I'm a murderer!". Out of nowhere. therapist didn't seem to care about this or that he told the little one he would stab him to death, but took interest in the fact that difficult child is hitting himself now. I don't get it. He's been hitting everyone else for years. The guilt I'm feeling for wanting to tuck tail is so awful and my nature is to see all sides of things, whichs makes it hard to settle on one course of action. (So you see me arguing with myself to go one way then in the next breath arguing the other side... I'm sorry.) I guess I feel that no matter what I do here, there is no winning and no getting better, so why subject my little one to it and run myself into the nuthouse?</p><p></p><p>I feel difficult child is getting more dangerous.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 568204, member: 14139"] buddy- And you've hit pretty much on my internal problems... Is it my problem? I feel that it IS my problem, you know? If it's not my problem, if I don't try HARDER, then who's problem is it and who WILL try for difficult child? This has been my mentality and what has kept me going for so long. Then comes in the knowing that nothing has gotten better, it is getting worse and getting MUCH worse for the games that his biomom plays. I told husband and the therapist the other day (sort of broke down) that I have been doing this since difficult child was 3, and nothing has changed (yes, behaviors have morphed but not gone away). therapist told me that I am taking things too personally and difficult child has changed since he was 3 and it's not comparable to him now, at the age of 9. I disagreed with everything he said... maybe I am taking things personally (?) but his actions are REALLY causing damage to our family and especially his brother. difficult child sits and tells easy child (who is 3 now) how much he hates him, has threatened to kill him with a knife when he is sleeping, hits/hurts him constantly (since he was born) and my easy child now says "I'm stupid. I'm dumb." and always asks difficult child if he loves him. Sometimes he gets a nice answer, but usually difficult child just ignores him rather than say he loves him. I forgot to add that during his rage the other day, difficult child blurted out "I'm a murderer!". Out of nowhere. therapist didn't seem to care about this or that he told the little one he would stab him to death, but took interest in the fact that difficult child is hitting himself now. I don't get it. He's been hitting everyone else for years. The guilt I'm feeling for wanting to tuck tail is so awful and my nature is to see all sides of things, whichs makes it hard to settle on one course of action. (So you see me arguing with myself to go one way then in the next breath arguing the other side... I'm sorry.) I guess I feel that no matter what I do here, there is no winning and no getting better, so why subject my little one to it and run myself into the nuthouse? I feel difficult child is getting more dangerous. [/QUOTE]
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