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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743817" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Tried. Please do not take this on yourself. We are all going down this hard road. If your son had been prospering or even doing OK you would not feel insecure. You feel insecure because there are huge problems and there have been huge problems for a long time--that do not go away.</p><p></p><p>Same with me.</p><p></p><p>Your insecurities are NOT holding him back. He is held back by factors in him, whether behaviors, attitudes, addictions, habits, vices, mental health issues, circumstances, character, etc. This is true of almost all of our adult children who bring us here. You have tried and tried. This has made you feel desperate and ineffective. This is a normal reaction to this situation. We all of us, feel this way.</p><p></p><p>You have neglected yourself having put all of your energies, efforts and your locus of control in him. Your insecurity is because of this. How could anybody feel stable and strong if they locate their power in somebody else, over whom they have no control? There is no way.</p><p></p><p>This is what has to change. You be in charge of you. He is in charge of him. It is hard but doable. Once you take back yourself, your energy, your attention to yourself and focus on what you need, what you can do that is fun, rewarding, relaxing, healthy, etc., you will feel worlds better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743817, member: 18958"] Tried. Please do not take this on yourself. We are all going down this hard road. If your son had been prospering or even doing OK you would not feel insecure. You feel insecure because there are huge problems and there have been huge problems for a long time--that do not go away. Same with me. Your insecurities are NOT holding him back. He is held back by factors in him, whether behaviors, attitudes, addictions, habits, vices, mental health issues, circumstances, character, etc. This is true of almost all of our adult children who bring us here. You have tried and tried. This has made you feel desperate and ineffective. This is a normal reaction to this situation. We all of us, feel this way. You have neglected yourself having put all of your energies, efforts and your locus of control in him. Your insecurity is because of this. How could anybody feel stable and strong if they locate their power in somebody else, over whom they have no control? There is no way. This is what has to change. You be in charge of you. He is in charge of him. It is hard but doable. Once you take back yourself, your energy, your attention to yourself and focus on what you need, what you can do that is fun, rewarding, relaxing, healthy, etc., you will feel worlds better. [/QUOTE]
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