My sister in law and brother in law, who we have grown very close to, are moving to Alaska soon to be with their only child and her husband.
Technically this is not their only child, but in reality, it is. She is very close to them, which is good, because oldest daughter has shunned them for eight years now and a grandson is involved.
Older daughter was always a Difficult Child, attitude wise, but did not get into legal trouble or school trouble and made the honor role. For a long time she has been telling everyone that she was abused (you know how that goes,) while accepting cars and toys and two weddings from her parents. At her first wedding she told the pastor she was abused, then told her parents smuigly she had said so. They were very hurt, but didn't want to really go there so they let it drop.
They did spank her. They had strict but not unreasonable rules and she was not spanked anywhere but her butt with a hand when she was little. Her younger sister does not remember abuse. She does remember older sister yelling a lot and once lifting her arm to strike her mother but she didn't do it
This older child joined the military, zoomed through boot camp then hurt her back and had to be discharged. She started taking opioids for pain. S I L was never sure how much she took but used to urge her to get evaluated for possible addiction. That got daughter mad. But at that time Daughter did not cut ties.
In the meantime she married her second husband and had a darling grandson who my S I L baby sat a few times a week while both were at work. She was crazy about the boy. Husband was aloof and hostile.
One day out of the blue, everyone in the family including younger sister who she had been very close to and elderly grandmother, received a letter stating that she was cutting off everyone in the family (no explanation) and that nobody better contact them ever again. The parents tried and she just hung up. The grandson, around four at the time, has not seen them since. Nobody has seen.them since.
They still have no idea why. She was sent an invitation to her younger sisters wedding and sent her a short text stating she isn't going and would not engage further.
It has been a long time. The in laws are talking about writing her out of their will. They worked very hard and have money. In Alaska they plan on helping young daughter buy a house and are buying one too.
Older daughter is a nurse makes good money, not sure what her husband does but they are doing fine. Plus oldest gets money from military for her injury. Still S i l in law and especially bro in law struggle with totally cutting her out. She will definitely not get what youngest will because youngest is a kind and caring daughter. They do not plan on informing oldest daughter when and where they move and she won't know as she is not in touch with anyone in the family. Maybe she will k ow from social media if she looks.
So just sharing another difficult child story. She is probably in her middle 30s by now. The younger one is still in her 20s as they had them far apart, although same parents...no divorce there. Married at eighteen and still married.
Youngest daughter met her hubby in Wisconsin at college then they both transferred to Alaska as he is from there and that's how Alaska happened. So visiting Alaska is now on our agenda.
Just sharing. Have a good day!
