After a lifetime of trying hard to work on it with my sister, in between all the times she cut me out of her life for reasons of her own, I finally realized, she thinks really poorly of me and my intentions and will never stop hurting me. So I am done.
This will sound goody to some... I had a psychic reading with my very accurate psychic medium who knows nothing about me and my sister,but she is amazing. She freaked me out with accuracy again saying that we have a kamac relationship and that sis does not tend to change her ideas, thoughts, feelings and that she and I are actually alot alike and that when she sees something about me that she doesn't like, it mirrors herself, but she steadfastly refuses to see the traits in herself. There was more, but that really struck me as accurate. A better description doesn't exist. In general she said that I either had to accept how she is and let things go or it won't work.
I won't let her insult and blame me ever again. It won't work. So we are now not in contact. And I don't want to try another time.
I don't miss her. I don't care about having DNA connections I am happy with my husband and amazing kids. This same psychic raved about my relationship with my husband other kids, especially Jumper, and she didn't know them either but it was very accurate and upliting. Yes, I am a kook 
Gone boy had interesting comments too but anyway....
There are good reasons sometimes for cutting ties to people society says we should not release. Sometimes it is family abuse or drug abuse. Sometimes this happens for no good reasons too. But, in the end, nobody should be forced to interact with somebody that makes you feel small or always misunderstood. I get it.
As for my b I L and s I L both are used to it by now and are doing well and very anxious to join their kind daughter in Alaska. They don't talk about older daughter much and are moving on.
Lost, I am sorry you don't have a bigger family, at least more kids. Hugs!
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