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<blockquote data-quote="IttyBittySquid" data-source="post: 729377" data-attributes="member: 22865"><p>Thanks so much, everyone! I really appreciate your kind words and support.</p><p></p><p>I do hope that in time my son will start seeing another doctor and maybe get another opinion. He had a horrendously terrible high-school experience, which included being raped by a male "friend", a manipulative ex-girlfriend who told him she'd had his baby after they broke up and that it had died - which turned out to be completely untrue, and all kinds of trouble because of the lying and stealing. By the time he graduated, he was cutting himself and threatening suicide. He spent three days on lock-down in a psychiatric ward - luckily, he went voluntarily - and he was diagnosed shortly after that.</p><p></p><p>He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist, who had him take some kind of diagnostic test. Afterward, he walked us through the results, and everything he talked about seemed to be spot on. He did say that Antisocial Personality Disorder and Dependent Personality Disorder are almost opposites - so someone with both would have some contradictory symptoms. Which seems to match my kid most of the time. Unfortunately, I can't get my son to see a counselor now that he's an adult. He's not on any medication because he's terrible about being consistent with it. We tried an antidepressant for a while, but we ended up being concerned that taking it inconsistently could actually increase his depression.</p><p></p><p>I have to admit that the Antisocial Personality Diagnosis was a real shock to me, since my son does seem to care about people very much. He absolutely loves his little cousins, and he has a great time with his siblings. He has had a couple of (disastrous) relationships over the years, and he ends up getting so attached to these girls that he's devastated when they break up. So - he definitely cares. On the other hand, when I look at the lists of "symptoms" for Auditory Processing Disorders (APD), he fits every single category except that he's never violent, he never gets into fights, and he cares about people.</p><p></p><p>As for a conscience - no, I can't really say whether he has one or not. As I said, he's not hurting animals or people - but he doesn't care in the least about the consequences of stealing or lying. He sees that his behavior hurts the people around him, but seems not to be effected by that.</p><p></p><p>It's also been so strange to see how different he is from my other three children. They are calm, reasonable, and thoughtful. None of them gets into trouble at school. They have no trouble keeping jobs. I have a few bucks sitting on my desk right now - and it's been there for weeks. None of them would even think to take it... but when my oldest was still at home, there's no way I could have left it sitting there. He has stolen money and phones and electronics from me - and he sells them for cash. He's had at least twenty-five jobs in three years... he has no trouble getting a job because he is charismatic and smart and funny - but he can't keep one.</p><p></p><p>Ah - anyway. We're taking it one day at a time. He was here for a short time today and we had a really nice meal together. He even helped with the cooking without being asked. So, that's something. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Thanks for making me feel so welcome here. Some days, I think we're going to be ok - and some days I think we aren't going to make it. Today was a good one.</p><p></p><p>I hope you all have more good days than bad ones. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/love_heart.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":love_heart:" title="love_heart :love_heart:" data-shortname=":love_heart:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="IttyBittySquid, post: 729377, member: 22865"] Thanks so much, everyone! I really appreciate your kind words and support. I do hope that in time my son will start seeing another doctor and maybe get another opinion. He had a horrendously terrible high-school experience, which included being raped by a male "friend", a manipulative ex-girlfriend who told him she'd had his baby after they broke up and that it had died - which turned out to be completely untrue, and all kinds of trouble because of the lying and stealing. By the time he graduated, he was cutting himself and threatening suicide. He spent three days on lock-down in a psychiatric ward - luckily, he went voluntarily - and he was diagnosed shortly after that. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist, who had him take some kind of diagnostic test. Afterward, he walked us through the results, and everything he talked about seemed to be spot on. He did say that Antisocial Personality Disorder and Dependent Personality Disorder are almost opposites - so someone with both would have some contradictory symptoms. Which seems to match my kid most of the time. Unfortunately, I can't get my son to see a counselor now that he's an adult. He's not on any medication because he's terrible about being consistent with it. We tried an antidepressant for a while, but we ended up being concerned that taking it inconsistently could actually increase his depression. I have to admit that the Antisocial Personality Diagnosis was a real shock to me, since my son does seem to care about people very much. He absolutely loves his little cousins, and he has a great time with his siblings. He has had a couple of (disastrous) relationships over the years, and he ends up getting so attached to these girls that he's devastated when they break up. So - he definitely cares. On the other hand, when I look at the lists of "symptoms" for Auditory Processing Disorders (APD), he fits every single category except that he's never violent, he never gets into fights, and he cares about people. As for a conscience - no, I can't really say whether he has one or not. As I said, he's not hurting animals or people - but he doesn't care in the least about the consequences of stealing or lying. He sees that his behavior hurts the people around him, but seems not to be effected by that. It's also been so strange to see how different he is from my other three children. They are calm, reasonable, and thoughtful. None of them gets into trouble at school. They have no trouble keeping jobs. I have a few bucks sitting on my desk right now - and it's been there for weeks. None of them would even think to take it... but when my oldest was still at home, there's no way I could have left it sitting there. He has stolen money and phones and electronics from me - and he sells them for cash. He's had at least twenty-five jobs in three years... he has no trouble getting a job because he is charismatic and smart and funny - but he can't keep one. Ah - anyway. We're taking it one day at a time. He was here for a short time today and we had a really nice meal together. He even helped with the cooking without being asked. So, that's something. :) Thanks for making me feel so welcome here. Some days, I think we're going to be ok - and some days I think we aren't going to make it. Today was a good one. I hope you all have more good days than bad ones. :love_heart: [/QUOTE]
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