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<blockquote data-quote="Wish" data-source="post: 738352" data-attributes="member: 23140"><p>Overcome mom, it was very kind and loving of you to even consider his mental illness as seriously as you are. As someone with an extensive history of bipolar myself, it is very nice to see it every once in a while.</p><p></p><p>My 21 year old daughter also has bipolar, PTSD and some other things most likely. I'm sure you could imagine what her teenage years were like. It peeked from 12 tru 19 years old but she is doing much better now, she has come leaps and bounds, I am so proud of her but that can always change in a heartbeat just like with anything else in life. Has held her employment since she was 15 which is utterly amazing considering what she has been through and along with her mental illness as well.</p><p></p><p>Being as though I have bipolar, her father who had severe mental problems who eventually took his own life and my mother being a manic depressive/borderline schizophrenic, made me more prepared in knowing how to handle her and believe me, the very mental health community, doctors, nurses, therapist and psychiatrist were of very little to help to us.</p><p></p><p>And that's always the question when it comes to mental illness. How much can one be accountable for something they aquired through no fault of their own? No one asks for mental illness. We didn't get to choose this. It is something that is thrown onto our plates with no way of knowing how to deal with it, we are just expected to. We have so much stigma attached to us. It comes down to this, some people are strong enough to handle it and some are not and then you have a whole bunch of factors and personality tratis in between to determine which one you are.</p><p></p><p>Follow your motherly instincts. I would say that he has to be held accoutable for his actions, there is no question about that, especially if he is commiting crimes. However, there are ways that you can help him with his mental illness but first, he has to want help. There is no way that you can help him without him wanting help. If he can't hold down a job because he is too sick and erratic to consistantly work, it might be the time to start thinking about applying for some sort of disability.</p><p></p><p>You really can't help him otherwise unless he wants help. If he starts getting serious about getting help and starts making great effort to do so, then maybe you can start helping him. Just like caring for anyone we love with cancer or any other physical disease, we must care for our loved ones the same with mental illness because it is serious and it's devestating.</p><p></p><p>Just remember. Having mental illness doesn't determine what kind of a person you are. You can be a good person with mental illness or you can be a bad person with mental illness. If he is prison for hurting people or doing very bad things, that has nothing to do with mental illness in my humble opinion because for as sick as we are, My mother, my daughter's father, my daugher and myself never harmed anyone or did anything criminal. But who am I to say really? No on really knows. I would say build boudries, don't back from them and if you see a way to help him in a good way outside of that, you can if you want to. Follow your instincts as a mother. If he does something bad, he cannot go unpunished for that.</p><p></p><p>Is he willing at all to get help for his issues?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wish, post: 738352, member: 23140"] Overcome mom, it was very kind and loving of you to even consider his mental illness as seriously as you are. As someone with an extensive history of bipolar myself, it is very nice to see it every once in a while. My 21 year old daughter also has bipolar, PTSD and some other things most likely. I'm sure you could imagine what her teenage years were like. It peeked from 12 tru 19 years old but she is doing much better now, she has come leaps and bounds, I am so proud of her but that can always change in a heartbeat just like with anything else in life. Has held her employment since she was 15 which is utterly amazing considering what she has been through and along with her mental illness as well. Being as though I have bipolar, her father who had severe mental problems who eventually took his own life and my mother being a manic depressive/borderline schizophrenic, made me more prepared in knowing how to handle her and believe me, the very mental health community, doctors, nurses, therapist and psychiatrist were of very little to help to us. And that's always the question when it comes to mental illness. How much can one be accountable for something they aquired through no fault of their own? No one asks for mental illness. We didn't get to choose this. It is something that is thrown onto our plates with no way of knowing how to deal with it, we are just expected to. We have so much stigma attached to us. It comes down to this, some people are strong enough to handle it and some are not and then you have a whole bunch of factors and personality tratis in between to determine which one you are. Follow your motherly instincts. I would say that he has to be held accoutable for his actions, there is no question about that, especially if he is commiting crimes. However, there are ways that you can help him with his mental illness but first, he has to want help. There is no way that you can help him without him wanting help. If he can't hold down a job because he is too sick and erratic to consistantly work, it might be the time to start thinking about applying for some sort of disability. You really can't help him otherwise unless he wants help. If he starts getting serious about getting help and starts making great effort to do so, then maybe you can start helping him. Just like caring for anyone we love with cancer or any other physical disease, we must care for our loved ones the same with mental illness because it is serious and it's devestating. Just remember. Having mental illness doesn't determine what kind of a person you are. You can be a good person with mental illness or you can be a bad person with mental illness. If he is prison for hurting people or doing very bad things, that has nothing to do with mental illness in my humble opinion because for as sick as we are, My mother, my daughter's father, my daugher and myself never harmed anyone or did anything criminal. But who am I to say really? No on really knows. I would say build boudries, don't back from them and if you see a way to help him in a good way outside of that, you can if you want to. Follow your instincts as a mother. If he does something bad, he cannot go unpunished for that. Is he willing at all to get help for his issues? [/QUOTE]
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