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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 738357" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Hi Over Come Mom ~ sorry you are here but welcome. The mental health struggle had led me to rescue my son for years.</p><p></p><p>My son was diagnosed as Bipolar when he was very young. For him, when he was young, every Spring going into the Summer he would become very irritable, mouthy and resist doing the basic things expected of him. The psychiatrist would tweak one of his two medications up just a little and he would go back to normal. I learned the hard way at that time when he became unstable I couldn’t give him a break on behaviors or it would be a longer road getting him back to acting right after the medication adjustment.</p><p></p><p>With him as an adult it’s been a whole different ball game. Seeing the things he does to himself, the kind of lifestyle that never touched my life in the past is pretty frightening. I kept trying to keep him from having the consequences of not living responsibly by taking the hits myself. My thinking was that he had a hard time navigating life when he was younger with all of the supports in place so there’s no way he’s going to be able to get himself out of the dilemmas he’s creating for himself now. But the problem with this thinking is I was assuming he would eventually learn from the bad experiences and stop. Instead now he continues to live an irresponsible life and I am his villain because I won’t rescue him from it.</p><p></p><p>At this point all I do is to try to point out to him how his life was so much different growing up than he claims it was and that he should go back to taking medication. He is resisting mightily currently with a lot of nasty emails and character assignation of me so who knows.</p><p></p><p>I have a seven page medical history document that I’ve created to send to any hospital or doctor he may go to. And there is a local mental health organization he can reach out to for services. I’m not a big fan of NAMI, but that’s probably because I took the Family to Family course back when they didn’t have anything for parents of younger children. But recently I found out that local mental health organization holds the NAMI meetings there so it would seem NAMI would be a good resource to find out what might be available for help for him if he chooses to use it.</p><p></p><p>It makes it just a little bit easier to resist the total helpless feeling and the urge to rescue by having a bit of a plan in place. I’m not holding out much hope that he will decide to actually take the long road to help himself but if he does I can support him by providing direction back to the mental health organization and provide any psychiatrist with his history.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 738357, member: 22840"] Hi Over Come Mom ~ sorry you are here but welcome. The mental health struggle had led me to rescue my son for years. My son was diagnosed as Bipolar when he was very young. For him, when he was young, every Spring going into the Summer he would become very irritable, mouthy and resist doing the basic things expected of him. The psychiatrist would tweak one of his two medications up just a little and he would go back to normal. I learned the hard way at that time when he became unstable I couldn’t give him a break on behaviors or it would be a longer road getting him back to acting right after the medication adjustment. With him as an adult it’s been a whole different ball game. Seeing the things he does to himself, the kind of lifestyle that never touched my life in the past is pretty frightening. I kept trying to keep him from having the consequences of not living responsibly by taking the hits myself. My thinking was that he had a hard time navigating life when he was younger with all of the supports in place so there’s no way he’s going to be able to get himself out of the dilemmas he’s creating for himself now. But the problem with this thinking is I was assuming he would eventually learn from the bad experiences and stop. Instead now he continues to live an irresponsible life and I am his villain because I won’t rescue him from it. At this point all I do is to try to point out to him how his life was so much different growing up than he claims it was and that he should go back to taking medication. He is resisting mightily currently with a lot of nasty emails and character assignation of me so who knows. I have a seven page medical history document that I’ve created to send to any hospital or doctor he may go to. And there is a local mental health organization he can reach out to for services. I’m not a big fan of NAMI, but that’s probably because I took the Family to Family course back when they didn’t have anything for parents of younger children. But recently I found out that local mental health organization holds the NAMI meetings there so it would seem NAMI would be a good resource to find out what might be available for help for him if he chooses to use it. It makes it just a little bit easier to resist the total helpless feeling and the urge to rescue by having a bit of a plan in place. I’m not holding out much hope that he will decide to actually take the long road to help himself but if he does I can support him by providing direction back to the mental health organization and provide any psychiatrist with his history. [/QUOTE]
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