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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 738364" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>Hi OvercomeMom - welcome. Sorry to hear you have been enduring such behavior from your son.</p><p></p><p>I think you have received some very sage advice from some very "experienced" parents already. I believe that we all hold out that glimmer of hope - that our children will 'find their way'. Sadly, many do not.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Our daughter will not admit to any diagnosis, unless it serves her purpose. She will vehemently deny that she needs treatment. When she was younger, her psychiatric team would classify her as having bipolar disorder (rather than the borderline personality disorder, ADHD and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) diagnoses) because it was the only diagnosis that would get services for her. Luckily, the treatment team knew of the other actual diagnoses and tried their best to work with her. She successfully fought them all off and the day she turned 18 was the day she stopped medications and started self-medicating. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Our daughter is rarely truthful. She's been traveling the globe for 4 years and never really worked - sucks in people to give her money (including us). Created "drama situations" everywhere she went and we bought into it. Rescued her so many times. Once we cut off the rescue pipeline, it was amazing that she survived - she was able to find accommodation, food and transportation, all on her own. It's just easier if someone does it for her. </p><p></p><p>I can't "fix" her mental illness - just like I can't "fix" my broken thyroid gland or my husband's depression. We are each responsible to take care of ourselves. My daughter knows right from wrong but still chooses the path of trouble. The day she comes forward and honestly says she is ready to enter the treatment program that has been offered to her twice, then I will be ready with open arms in support of that effort.</p><p></p><p>Also - you and your husband have the right to have a peaceful life together. This puts a terrible strain on any relationship, including spouses, other children and extended family members. Take time for some self-care.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 738364, member: 355"] Hi OvercomeMom - welcome. Sorry to hear you have been enduring such behavior from your son. I think you have received some very sage advice from some very "experienced" parents already. I believe that we all hold out that glimmer of hope - that our children will 'find their way'. Sadly, many do not. Our daughter will not admit to any diagnosis, unless it serves her purpose. She will vehemently deny that she needs treatment. When she was younger, her psychiatric team would classify her as having bipolar disorder (rather than the borderline personality disorder, ADHD and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) diagnoses) because it was the only diagnosis that would get services for her. Luckily, the treatment team knew of the other actual diagnoses and tried their best to work with her. She successfully fought them all off and the day she turned 18 was the day she stopped medications and started self-medicating. Our daughter is rarely truthful. She's been traveling the globe for 4 years and never really worked - sucks in people to give her money (including us). Created "drama situations" everywhere she went and we bought into it. Rescued her so many times. Once we cut off the rescue pipeline, it was amazing that she survived - she was able to find accommodation, food and transportation, all on her own. It's just easier if someone does it for her. I can't "fix" her mental illness - just like I can't "fix" my broken thyroid gland or my husband's depression. We are each responsible to take care of ourselves. My daughter knows right from wrong but still chooses the path of trouble. The day she comes forward and honestly says she is ready to enter the treatment program that has been offered to her twice, then I will be ready with open arms in support of that effort. Also - you and your husband have the right to have a peaceful life together. This puts a terrible strain on any relationship, including spouses, other children and extended family members. Take time for some self-care. Hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
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