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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 738964" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>Thanks for the input. I know it is not a good idea but hate to see him have a violent charge on his record. I was toying with going to get his things (a 3 hour drive one way) but have decided to let the chips fall where they may. I am sure that some of his things will be damaged and missing. Just hope he doesn't go wild again. I have no idea how he is going to get to his birth Mom's place as it is about 3 hours away.</p><p> The worse time for me is the mornings when I first wake up. I start to think about him and what is going to happen to him. I start to problem solve in my head and run all sort of different scenarios . It is so hard to turn it off. I know that I can figure certain things out but unless I do it then it won't get done and I SHOULDN'T BE DOING IT. I thought before this if he got locked up again I might feel better as I know where he is and he wouldn't be asking for money. Well I was wrong on both accounts. I am really trying to prepare myself for when he gets out and saying No and sticking with it. Sometimes I know I have just given him money so I don't have to listen to him for a while. This is not good for him nor I. I have a really hard time not answering my phone. If I don't answer it I constantly wonder why he called and what he is going to do to up the ante. </p><p></p><p>He is very good at getting work and horrible at keeping the job. He has worked a lot of different places maybe 10+ but has never kept a job more than 7 weeks. I am not sure why he gets fired but have my suspicions, a lot is related to his time management skills and always thinking he knows what is right. I really don't know a job where he would not be serving someone. Where is suppose to work to support himself?</p><p>As far as changing if he gets punished I wish that was the case. He has been in prison 2 times and locked up more times than I can count, starting when he was 15. I use to say that he always has to learn the hard way but now I say he doesn't learn at all. It all just makes me so sad. I want so much to detach and enjoy my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 738964, member: 23328"] Thanks for the input. I know it is not a good idea but hate to see him have a violent charge on his record. I was toying with going to get his things (a 3 hour drive one way) but have decided to let the chips fall where they may. I am sure that some of his things will be damaged and missing. Just hope he doesn't go wild again. I have no idea how he is going to get to his birth Mom's place as it is about 3 hours away. The worse time for me is the mornings when I first wake up. I start to think about him and what is going to happen to him. I start to problem solve in my head and run all sort of different scenarios . It is so hard to turn it off. I know that I can figure certain things out but unless I do it then it won't get done and I SHOULDN'T BE DOING IT. I thought before this if he got locked up again I might feel better as I know where he is and he wouldn't be asking for money. Well I was wrong on both accounts. I am really trying to prepare myself for when he gets out and saying No and sticking with it. Sometimes I know I have just given him money so I don't have to listen to him for a while. This is not good for him nor I. I have a really hard time not answering my phone. If I don't answer it I constantly wonder why he called and what he is going to do to up the ante. He is very good at getting work and horrible at keeping the job. He has worked a lot of different places maybe 10+ but has never kept a job more than 7 weeks. I am not sure why he gets fired but have my suspicions, a lot is related to his time management skills and always thinking he knows what is right. I really don't know a job where he would not be serving someone. Where is suppose to work to support himself? As far as changing if he gets punished I wish that was the case. He has been in prison 2 times and locked up more times than I can count, starting when he was 15. I use to say that he always has to learn the hard way but now I say he doesn't learn at all. It all just makes me so sad. I want so much to detach and enjoy my life. [/QUOTE]
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