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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 739145" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>Thanks so much for your input. Copabanana what you say is all so true. I keep going over and over where he is going to stay. My husband said that "I want to go on record saying that he can stay here a couple of weeks" I asked what good that will do and what he came up with is that it would be 2 weeks he is not on the streets. Part of this is my fault as I haven't really told him all the reasons why I am pretty sure that he is using meth. He really doesn't have the contact with him I do. It has been that way from the beginning because my husband would shut down and say there is nothing we can do. He was right sometimes but not when he was underage and constantly running away. I am the one who contacted the police and dealt with the authorities when he was picked up out of state. I am the one who found the residential treatment programs,etc. Also my husband is fine until he's not, if my son is not doing what he is told and starts to argue with his father , he gets in his face , it turns to a bad situation quickly and it could take the police 15- 20 minutes before they get to the house. </p><p></p><p>I guess I just keep throwing money at my son to keep my sanity, I know it is not good for him. "Learning to sit tight, even as we watch the train wreck, is our learning". Boy is this hard. I'm worried for my son and myself still can't be sure that he won't do something to our house-us. He hasn't done anything for about 8 years but it is hard to forget what he did before. I have never cut him off completely. I did say I would keep his phone active but nothing else. Wondering now if I should give him a little each week just to keep him from going off on us and make the transition to nothing a little slower. Even as I am typing this it sound as if I am trying to placate him. Maybe I should just pull the bandage off and see if the wound heals. It's scary</p><p></p><p>His birthmother said he could stay there after he gets out but is back peddling now. He can't call her because the jail didn't give the phone cards out because someone screwed up. I told him I would call her and he could call me and I would tell him what she said. She told me she would let him know yesterday and then didn't and today only answered one text with a question. My son has called me numerous times finally answered and told him I knew nothing. He keeps asking me what he is going to do if he can't stay with her? I tell him I don't know and he gets all pissy with me. If I make any suggestions he has some reason why it is not going to work. Everyone has deserted him. I wonder why that is .. I would love to tell him but he wouldn't listen and then get even angrier at me. I am going to stop answering my phone if he gets out on Tuesday. I told him I would give him gas money so she could pick him up but that's it.</p><p></p><p>The stupid security system I bought is not working right. I have messed with it for 2 days. I really would like it working before we leave. I am sooo tried of this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 739145, member: 23328"] Thanks so much for your input. Copabanana what you say is all so true. I keep going over and over where he is going to stay. My husband said that "I want to go on record saying that he can stay here a couple of weeks" I asked what good that will do and what he came up with is that it would be 2 weeks he is not on the streets. Part of this is my fault as I haven't really told him all the reasons why I am pretty sure that he is using meth. He really doesn't have the contact with him I do. It has been that way from the beginning because my husband would shut down and say there is nothing we can do. He was right sometimes but not when he was underage and constantly running away. I am the one who contacted the police and dealt with the authorities when he was picked up out of state. I am the one who found the residential treatment programs,etc. Also my husband is fine until he's not, if my son is not doing what he is told and starts to argue with his father , he gets in his face , it turns to a bad situation quickly and it could take the police 15- 20 minutes before they get to the house. I guess I just keep throwing money at my son to keep my sanity, I know it is not good for him. "Learning to sit tight, even as we watch the train wreck, is our learning". Boy is this hard. I'm worried for my son and myself still can't be sure that he won't do something to our house-us. He hasn't done anything for about 8 years but it is hard to forget what he did before. I have never cut him off completely. I did say I would keep his phone active but nothing else. Wondering now if I should give him a little each week just to keep him from going off on us and make the transition to nothing a little slower. Even as I am typing this it sound as if I am trying to placate him. Maybe I should just pull the bandage off and see if the wound heals. It's scary His birthmother said he could stay there after he gets out but is back peddling now. He can't call her because the jail didn't give the phone cards out because someone screwed up. I told him I would call her and he could call me and I would tell him what she said. She told me she would let him know yesterday and then didn't and today only answered one text with a question. My son has called me numerous times finally answered and told him I knew nothing. He keeps asking me what he is going to do if he can't stay with her? I tell him I don't know and he gets all pissy with me. If I make any suggestions he has some reason why it is not going to work. Everyone has deserted him. I wonder why that is .. I would love to tell him but he wouldn't listen and then get even angrier at me. I am going to stop answering my phone if he gets out on Tuesday. I told him I would give him gas money so she could pick him up but that's it. The stupid security system I bought is not working right. I have messed with it for 2 days. I really would like it working before we leave. I am sooo tried of this. [/QUOTE]
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