Hi just...my best simple and immediate advice to you is stop the flow of your money to your daughter and turn your energy and focus onto your own life.
You can't control what her grandparents do or don't do. Once they get sick and tired enough they will stop.
I would not respond to your daughter and let her deal with her own consequences.
If you are ready to do something different you may want to attend some alanon meetings (they have saved my life) and start your own recovery program. You likely need to recover from enabling. I did and the work I have done over the past four years has helped me become a better person.
Today my 24.5 year old son is homeless in the town where I live. I love him very much but I am through trying to save him.
Nothing and I mean nothing I have tried over the past four to six years has affected one single thing he has done. His addiction has flourished and I have exhausted myself in my quest to save him.
I can tell you sincerely that you cannot save or control or fix your daughter. Only she can.
The best thing you can do is work on yourself. Please spend some time reading this site. We get it. We care.
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