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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 755487" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p><em>Dear Beta, Your younger son is doing what he is suppose to do, spreading his wings. I believe he will move back closer to home after he matures a bit and finds out that family is everything. The oldest and troubled one may get tired of holding so much hate that he may come to his senses. There is maturing that happens at 30 for most people. </em></p><p><em>I know how hard it is to pour so much time and energy into your family and watch all that love and work dissolve. I know how we are suppose to find own life and own path yet long to be connected to our children. I understand that no matter what I do and how I do it the longing to be connected and loved by my children overrides everything. I have known men and women that can go about their lives and not think or miss their children, I do not know how that is done. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I think listening to your oldest son go off and on with you is harder than if he was just off. I went through that with my daughter, it was as if she threw me a bone and then just to harm me again and again. I decided that no connection was better than the off/on crap I was getting plus the abuse and belligerence.</em></p><p><em>These troubled kids are a lot more resourceful than we give them credit for. They know where to go for food and shelter. No matter who is on the receiving end of them, they will not tolerate them very long, forcing them to grow and mature just a bit more. I think some of these adult children get tired and weary of their own lives.</em></p><p> <em>Beta, Just writing your feeling out, knowing others have walked that path and others pray for you and send you good will. Like Recovering enabler wrote in one of her posts to me, 'We are circling our wagons around you. When she wrote that I broke down and cried. Now just picture all of us on this support group circling our wagons around you to help protect and keep you safe.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 755487, member: 22416"] [I]Dear Beta, Your younger son is doing what he is suppose to do, spreading his wings. I believe he will move back closer to home after he matures a bit and finds out that family is everything. The oldest and troubled one may get tired of holding so much hate that he may come to his senses. There is maturing that happens at 30 for most people. I know how hard it is to pour so much time and energy into your family and watch all that love and work dissolve. I know how we are suppose to find own life and own path yet long to be connected to our children. I understand that no matter what I do and how I do it the longing to be connected and loved by my children overrides everything. I have known men and women that can go about their lives and not think or miss their children, I do not know how that is done. I think listening to your oldest son go off and on with you is harder than if he was just off. I went through that with my daughter, it was as if she threw me a bone and then just to harm me again and again. I decided that no connection was better than the off/on crap I was getting plus the abuse and belligerence. These troubled kids are a lot more resourceful than we give them credit for. They know where to go for food and shelter. No matter who is on the receiving end of them, they will not tolerate them very long, forcing them to grow and mature just a bit more. I think some of these adult children get tired and weary of their own lives. Beta, Just writing your feeling out, knowing others have walked that path and others pray for you and send you good will. Like Recovering enabler wrote in one of her posts to me, 'We are circling our wagons around you. When she wrote that I broke down and cried. Now just picture all of us on this support group circling our wagons around you to help protect and keep you safe.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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