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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 755490" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>In this day, family simply is not what it once was. Many many parents see their kids all move far away. I know many people, as we own a business, and it seems the norm that kids move away and that the parents have to build lives of their own. This is the world today. God loans us our kids until they are eighteen. Then they have roots to grow (that we gave them) and wings to fly. And fly they do.</p><p></p><p>And it is more "normal" now for kids to disown their parents. I hear stories like that and have one child who has disowned us. My husband and I have decided to go on with life. We get support from Al Anon and our therapy and we ARE lucky enough to have supportive family close by. But I think we are the exception.</p><p></p><p>With the family unit not as close geographically and sometimes emotionally as other generations, we can fall apart or enjoy life. it is a choice. I have spoken to parents who grieve forever and those who travel, socialize, go on and have fun and see the kids when they can. We are definitely planning to have fun.</p><p></p><p>My heart hurts for you. Do you have a spouse? Can you plan to date and get romantic again? We did that and it was FUN! We plan to travel. We bowl. We entertain. We still work.</p><p></p><p>I send prayers and hope you can find ways to be happy even though you are not near your kids. Our kids get busy with their peers and Dad and Mom are not as much fun as same age peers. It's not personal. It is nothing against you. Or anyone.</p><p></p><p>It does, at some time, become our responsibility to make our own happiness. Again, I site Al Anon and a good therapist as the reason we were able to become positive because at one point we were so low that we almost divorced. But we reached out for help and we are doing well now most days. Getting outside help in my opinion is priceless. Do it!!</p><p></p><p>I pray happiness for you. Hugs!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 755490, member: 23706"] In this day, family simply is not what it once was. Many many parents see their kids all move far away. I know many people, as we own a business, and it seems the norm that kids move away and that the parents have to build lives of their own. This is the world today. God loans us our kids until they are eighteen. Then they have roots to grow (that we gave them) and wings to fly. And fly they do. And it is more "normal" now for kids to disown their parents. I hear stories like that and have one child who has disowned us. My husband and I have decided to go on with life. We get support from Al Anon and our therapy and we ARE lucky enough to have supportive family close by. But I think we are the exception. With the family unit not as close geographically and sometimes emotionally as other generations, we can fall apart or enjoy life. it is a choice. I have spoken to parents who grieve forever and those who travel, socialize, go on and have fun and see the kids when they can. We are definitely planning to have fun. My heart hurts for you. Do you have a spouse? Can you plan to date and get romantic again? We did that and it was FUN! We plan to travel. We bowl. We entertain. We still work. I send prayers and hope you can find ways to be happy even though you are not near your kids. Our kids get busy with their peers and Dad and Mom are not as much fun as same age peers. It's not personal. It is nothing against you. Or anyone. It does, at some time, become our responsibility to make our own happiness. Again, I site Al Anon and a good therapist as the reason we were able to become positive because at one point we were so low that we almost divorced. But we reached out for help and we are doing well now most days. Getting outside help in my opinion is priceless. Do it!! I pray happiness for you. Hugs!! [/QUOTE]
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