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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 749099" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Hi Beta- I too have been where you are now and it SUCKS. I could barely function because of all of the anxiety, fear, anger, depression I was experiencing. For me, it was good to take a break from communicating with my daughter when things were that intense. This served several purposes. First and most important, it gave me space to focus on me rather than focusing on my mess of a daughter. Without contact with her I didn't know what was going on so I couldn't waste my energy worrying about whatever dumb stuff she was doing. It also gave both of us a break from each other. It was like a reset so that when we did speak again those issues were in the past so we weren't immediately rehashing them again. Space also provided me the time to look at the situation objectively. That was so important in being able to set and maintain boundaries. When I wasn't deep in the problems I could look at things and think about what I would advise someone else to do in the same situation. It really gave me perspective. Also, even when my daughter and I have been at worst with each other there is a bond between us. When we spend some time apart we miss each other and are happy to talk again after a break. Remember, a break in communication doesn't mean you will never speak to each other again. It's just some time off. I never think it's a bad thing. Sending you peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 749099, member: 11235"] Hi Beta- I too have been where you are now and it SUCKS. I could barely function because of all of the anxiety, fear, anger, depression I was experiencing. For me, it was good to take a break from communicating with my daughter when things were that intense. This served several purposes. First and most important, it gave me space to focus on me rather than focusing on my mess of a daughter. Without contact with her I didn't know what was going on so I couldn't waste my energy worrying about whatever dumb stuff she was doing. It also gave both of us a break from each other. It was like a reset so that when we did speak again those issues were in the past so we weren't immediately rehashing them again. Space also provided me the time to look at the situation objectively. That was so important in being able to set and maintain boundaries. When I wasn't deep in the problems I could look at things and think about what I would advise someone else to do in the same situation. It really gave me perspective. Also, even when my daughter and I have been at worst with each other there is a bond between us. When we spend some time apart we miss each other and are happy to talk again after a break. Remember, a break in communication doesn't mean you will never speak to each other again. It's just some time off. I never think it's a bad thing. Sending you peace. [/QUOTE]
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