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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 663174" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>I forgot to mention the most important part...DIAGNOSIS! Without that crucial piece, the police do not want to help as much and feel that he is not that dangerous. They don't seem to believe me when I say that he has paranoid schitzophrenia.</p><p></p><p>They need to "see" evidence. They do not take oral death threats as seriously as they should and command hallucinations don't even resonate with them. They told me that I "just happened to overhear him talking to himself"! I told them that command hallucinations ordering him to kill me are much more serious that threats to my face. He said, "I don't want to kill her. She's my mom. Uh, huh. I understand" 3 times before I fled the house to call the police in my locked car. He was arguing with his voices. What if they had won the argument?</p><p></p><p>I had a higher level officer tell me over the phone two days later that police are there to protect...not to be psychologists. I asked why they were not "protecting" my son and myself. He told me that when the officers came in and assessed the situation that night, they had decided that it did not warrant anymore police intervention. I told him that they didn't even COME IN! All three had told me that legally they could not go into my house because he had not, that time, threatened me to my face. Their whole demeanor changes when I say that he has not been officially diagnosed.</p><p></p><p>I was told a few days later of a possible disciplinary action because of a " lost opportunity". They said that they had offered to come in. I had begged them to come in my house that night because he had seen 3 times out the window that I was talking to the police. He had many times threatened to my face to kill me if I called the police ...two weeks earlier while holding out the jagged end of a broken bottle. When I called the morning after the incident, I was told that the crisis was now "over". I had asked that evening for crisis trained officers when I called and was told that I would get the nearest officers...</p><p></p><p>Also, with an official diagnosis, we could maybe down the road get a conservatorship set up. That would be a great help.</p><p></p><p>The people on this site are helping me be stronger in my resolve. Their experiences and expertise has helped me immensely.</p><p></p><p>I still find it very difficult to think about myself, but I am trying. I am unfortunately used to death threats from my childhood. They do not feel to me as abnormal as they should...numbing out, as well. I am glad that I finally stopped this pattern before it continued down the generations of my family. I don't want my two youngest sons to feel the way I did growing up anymore. They have a right to feel safe!</p><p></p><p>I am making sure that I eat everyday and go out at least once. I am completely dreading returning to special education teaching. I have helped every student greatly improve by accessing the proper system. I always fight relentlessly for their rights to the best services. It makes me angry that I was not able to do so with my son, because he was an adult. The system failed me. It is not fair.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 663174, member: 19245"] I forgot to mention the most important part...DIAGNOSIS! Without that crucial piece, the police do not want to help as much and feel that he is not that dangerous. They don't seem to believe me when I say that he has paranoid schitzophrenia. They need to "see" evidence. They do not take oral death threats as seriously as they should and command hallucinations don't even resonate with them. They told me that I "just happened to overhear him talking to himself"! I told them that command hallucinations ordering him to kill me are much more serious that threats to my face. He said, "I don't want to kill her. She's my mom. Uh, huh. I understand" 3 times before I fled the house to call the police in my locked car. He was arguing with his voices. What if they had won the argument? I had a higher level officer tell me over the phone two days later that police are there to protect...not to be psychologists. I asked why they were not "protecting" my son and myself. He told me that when the officers came in and assessed the situation that night, they had decided that it did not warrant anymore police intervention. I told him that they didn't even COME IN! All three had told me that legally they could not go into my house because he had not, that time, threatened me to my face. Their whole demeanor changes when I say that he has not been officially diagnosed. I was told a few days later of a possible disciplinary action because of a " lost opportunity". They said that they had offered to come in. I had begged them to come in my house that night because he had seen 3 times out the window that I was talking to the police. He had many times threatened to my face to kill me if I called the police ...two weeks earlier while holding out the jagged end of a broken bottle. When I called the morning after the incident, I was told that the crisis was now "over". I had asked that evening for crisis trained officers when I called and was told that I would get the nearest officers... Also, with an official diagnosis, we could maybe down the road get a conservatorship set up. That would be a great help. The people on this site are helping me be stronger in my resolve. Their experiences and expertise has helped me immensely. I still find it very difficult to think about myself, but I am trying. I am unfortunately used to death threats from my childhood. They do not feel to me as abnormal as they should...numbing out, as well. I am glad that I finally stopped this pattern before it continued down the generations of my family. I don't want my two youngest sons to feel the way I did growing up anymore. They have a right to feel safe! I am making sure that I eat everyday and go out at least once. I am completely dreading returning to special education teaching. I have helped every student greatly improve by accessing the proper system. I always fight relentlessly for their rights to the best services. It makes me angry that I was not able to do so with my son, because he was an adult. The system failed me. It is not fair. [/QUOTE]
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