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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 668808" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>My son called. He said he called the University Clinic and was accepted back.</p><p></p><p>I went and told M. Do you believe him, I asked? No.</p><p></p><p>I called my son. Who did you talk to? Helena? No. Marie. When is your appointment?</p><p></p><p>I don't actually have one. When are you getting your blood work done? Next week. I have to go the City to the dispensary (marijuana) tomorrow. Will you go tomorrow to get blood work, make sure the release is signed and call me from there? Yes.</p><p></p><p>It turns out all of that was a lie about being kicked out. He said he was depressed, and assumed he was. He asked to come home for his birthday, in a week. I said I had to talk to M.</p><p></p><p>M said No. My son lies to to each of us to get an advantage. Last time he stayed here we had a small fight. M says he is trying to protect me, and that is why he does not think it the best, that my son visit right now. He says he does not trust my son to be here. Yet.</p><p></p><p>I called my son and told him. We will celebrate your birthday when we take Grandma's remains to the Pacific.</p><p></p><p>He was docile.</p><p></p><p>I told him about the Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) diagnosis. I think he got the connection.</p><p></p><p>He said can't you understand, it is so simple. Exercise. Diet and controlling stress.</p><p></p><p>Do you see what I mean, that is how I feel, I told him.</p><p></p><p>I also told him the next time he feels depressed, go do something constructive to handle it. Don't call me and lie to make me feel horrible.</p><p></p><p>What in the world is wrong with him to treat me so cruelly?</p><p></p><p>All in all I feel I did OK. I am glad I am not seeing him on his birthday. I am glad we set that limit. I know I cannot call the shots about his health, but if he is going to tell me lies, I can at least call him on those and use them to my advantage.</p><p></p><p>I told him about the Liver Foundation, that he might want to visit the site to learn more, that liver disease is a silent killer. He started to say why he was sure he was fine...I stopped him and said: If you were getting regular blood work done to verify your liver enzymes are normal, that might mean something, but failing that, I do not want to hear it.</p><p>My guess would be that you are thawing and you can now view and accept your past experiences.</p><p></p><p>You were necessarily so defended before. Nobody can deal with everything at once.</p><p></p><p>If I look at events with my son, how could I expect myself to see him like everything is fine, when he jerks me around like this? And I have my own past that haunts me.</p><p></p><p>My son is not a cruel person but he treats me cruelly. I think he treats me as he treats himself.</p><p></p><p>I just saw your new post: Where do you find "Cactus and Jess and Jane" tops cheaper? What brand of Jeggings do you buy? I am worried that the Jeggings might be too much because of my age. My legs used to be good, and not problematic. But at 177 pounds, everything is problematic.</p><p></p><p>Feeling, I know it is hard. It is hard for me too. But we are doing it. Word for the day: Cloying. I have a cloying feeling my son is jerking me around. It does not feel good at all. Is that proper usage? </p><p></p><p>Thank you, Feeling.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 668808, member: 18958"] My son called. He said he called the University Clinic and was accepted back. I went and told M. Do you believe him, I asked? No. I called my son. Who did you talk to? Helena? No. Marie. When is your appointment? I don't actually have one. When are you getting your blood work done? Next week. I have to go the City to the dispensary (marijuana) tomorrow. Will you go tomorrow to get blood work, make sure the release is signed and call me from there? Yes. It turns out all of that was a lie about being kicked out. He said he was depressed, and assumed he was. He asked to come home for his birthday, in a week. I said I had to talk to M. M said No. My son lies to to each of us to get an advantage. Last time he stayed here we had a small fight. M says he is trying to protect me, and that is why he does not think it the best, that my son visit right now. He says he does not trust my son to be here. Yet. I called my son and told him. We will celebrate your birthday when we take Grandma's remains to the Pacific. He was docile. I told him about the Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) diagnosis. I think he got the connection. He said can't you understand, it is so simple. Exercise. Diet and controlling stress. Do you see what I mean, that is how I feel, I told him. I also told him the next time he feels depressed, go do something constructive to handle it. Don't call me and lie to make me feel horrible. What in the world is wrong with him to treat me so cruelly? All in all I feel I did OK. I am glad I am not seeing him on his birthday. I am glad we set that limit. I know I cannot call the shots about his health, but if he is going to tell me lies, I can at least call him on those and use them to my advantage. I told him about the Liver Foundation, that he might want to visit the site to learn more, that liver disease is a silent killer. He started to say why he was sure he was fine...I stopped him and said: If you were getting regular blood work done to verify your liver enzymes are normal, that might mean something, but failing that, I do not want to hear it. My guess would be that you are thawing and you can now view and accept your past experiences. You were necessarily so defended before. Nobody can deal with everything at once. If I look at events with my son, how could I expect myself to see him like everything is fine, when he jerks me around like this? And I have my own past that haunts me. My son is not a cruel person but he treats me cruelly. I think he treats me as he treats himself. I just saw your new post: Where do you find "Cactus and Jess and Jane" tops cheaper? What brand of Jeggings do you buy? I am worried that the Jeggings might be too much because of my age. My legs used to be good, and not problematic. But at 177 pounds, everything is problematic. Feeling, I know it is hard. It is hard for me too. But we are doing it. Word for the day: Cloying. I have a cloying feeling my son is jerking me around. It does not feel good at all. Is that proper usage? Thank you, Feeling. COPA [/QUOTE]
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