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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 671520" data-attributes="member: 17461">Can you post about what it was about her that drew you, Feeling?I am so pleased for you.To be afraid in the night is so awful.&nbsp; We can't seem to get our bearings in the same way we can, in the sunlight.&nbsp; I like what the therapist said about Son now having a chance he had not been able to take advantage of while he was living cloistered in his room.&nbsp; I think she is very correct in her thinking.I am so sorry for the hurt of it, Feeling.I too think it is best for the kids if they come to terms with their situations as the adults they are.&nbsp; It is so awful for us.&nbsp; We want to protect.&nbsp; Letting them go is the hardest thing.I do think it will help your son.&nbsp; I believe it is helping my daughter...but the horror of it is, there is no way to know whether we are doing this right.&nbsp; You and I both do know though, that the kids will be alone in the world one day.&nbsp; Let them learn they can do this, however the deck is stacked.&nbsp; I think I am following a right path with my thinking.&nbsp; Our daughter has been able to bring her family together; all four kids, and over time.&nbsp; She is their mother again to the point that nothing is perfect and the kids are doing typical adolescent attitude.&nbsp; That is an amazing accomplishment.&nbsp; No one who has been where our child has been has been able to do that ~ to focus intent on getting the family together and to actually do what she needed to do to make that happen.&nbsp; But our daughter did it.I told her how amazing a thing that was, last night.They forget how amazing they are.&nbsp; They only remember they are not normal.They never see the courage or strength or integrity in themselves because they feel so badly about the rest of it.I suppose this is where faith comes in, for us.I am glad it is better for you just lately, Feeling.It must be so hard for you not to be able to even send a card.&nbsp; You are doing what you can do for him though, in paying insurance and things like that.&nbsp; There are times when even the smallest of comforts can save us.&nbsp; You are very brave, Feeling.Cedar</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 671520, member: 17461"] Can you post about what it was about her that drew you, Feeling? I am so pleased for you. To be afraid in the night is so awful. We can't seem to get our bearings in the same way we can, in the sunlight. I like what the therapist said about Son now having a chance he had not been able to take advantage of while he was living cloistered in his room. I think she is very correct in her thinking. I am so sorry for the hurt of it, Feeling. I too think it is best for the kids if they come to terms with their situations as the adults they are. It is so awful for us. We want to protect. Letting them go is the hardest thing. I do think it will help your son. I believe it is helping my daughter...but the horror of it is, there is no way to know whether we are doing this right. You and I both do know though, that the kids will be alone in the world one day. Let them learn they can do this, however the deck is stacked. I think I am following a right path with my thinking. Our daughter has been able to bring her family together; all four kids, and over time. She is their mother again to the point that nothing is perfect and the kids are doing typical adolescent attitude. That is an amazing accomplishment. No one who has been where our child has been has been able to do that ~ to focus intent on getting the family together and to actually do what she needed to do to make that happen. But our daughter did it. I told her how amazing a thing that was, last night. They forget how amazing they are. They only remember they are not normal. They never see the courage or strength or integrity in themselves because they feel so badly about the rest of it. I suppose this is where faith comes in, for us. I am glad it is better for you just lately, Feeling. It must be so hard for you not to be able to even send a card. You are doing what you can do for him though, in paying insurance and things like that. There are times when even the smallest of comforts can save us. You are very brave, Feeling. Cedar [/QUOTE]

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