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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 671726" data-attributes="member: 19245">The issue with changing the restraining order is that he would never know.&nbsp; I have NO WAY of contacting him.Even with a hospitalization, judges hesitate to alter it unless he displays sustained, consistent gains.&nbsp; Even with treatment, schizophrenic people can be violent...medications are skipped, too weak, or stopped.&nbsp; Judges always err on the side of safety. I still remember the way that she looked at me.&nbsp; She displayed extreme concern for the gravity of the situation and care.&nbsp; It was a look like one mother to another.&nbsp; The judge decides and she gave me the longest amount allowed and told me that I will need to renew it in 5 years.Also, I have heard that if you cancel it, police are more likely not to be helpful or believe you in future violent episodes.&nbsp; I wanted him to receive help with an involuntary commitment.I have definitely considered having it altered if he did seek treatment and his therapist deemed him safe to be seen at the hospital.It is profoundly sad to think that I could not ever see my son again, alone. Actually, sadder still, I might never see my son again...period.Yes, if he got better, I plan to try.&nbsp; The day I went in front of the judge I was told by a legal clerk that I could have asked for phone calls or visits to the hospital or jail.&nbsp; It was right before court and it was too late.Thank you, Copa.&nbsp; Maybe he will be brought in.&nbsp; I think that he will 'lay low'.&nbsp; With the advent of cell phones with blue tooth...people do not notice people 'talking to themselves'.&nbsp; He will just blend in, unfortunately.&nbsp; Also, he only spoke to voices in his room, not ever with people around.Thank you for trying to figure a way to help me.&nbsp; I truly appreciate it and yes, I will make an appointment for my MRI.&nbsp; Was that on the laundry list?A feeble roar to my warrior sisters, but albeit, a roar nonetheless.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 671726, member: 19245"] The issue with changing the restraining order is that he would never know. I have NO WAY of contacting him. Even with a hospitalization, judges hesitate to alter it unless he displays sustained, consistent gains. Even with treatment, schizophrenic people can be violent...medications are skipped, too weak, or stopped. Judges always err on the side of safety. I still remember the way that she looked at me. She displayed extreme concern for the gravity of the situation and care. It was a look like one mother to another. The judge decides and she gave me the longest amount allowed and told me that I will need to renew it in 5 years. Also, I have heard that if you cancel it, police are more likely not to be helpful or believe you in future violent episodes. I wanted him to receive help with an involuntary commitment. I have definitely considered having it altered if he did seek treatment and his therapist deemed him safe to be seen at the hospital. It is profoundly sad to think that I could not ever see my son again, alone. Actually, sadder still, I might never see my son again...period. Yes, if he got better, I plan to try. The day I went in front of the judge I was told by a legal clerk that I could have asked for phone calls or visits to the hospital or jail. It was right before court and it was too late. Thank you, Copa. Maybe he will be brought in. I think that he will 'lay low'. With the advent of cell phones with blue tooth...people do not notice people 'talking to themselves'. He will just blend in, unfortunately. Also, he only spoke to voices in his room, not ever with people around. Thank you for trying to figure a way to help me. I truly appreciate it and yes, I will make an appointment for my MRI. Was that on the laundry list? A feeble roar to my warrior sisters, but albeit, a roar nonetheless. [/QUOTE]

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