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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 693465" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>My middle son, who lives up north and is going to school and has one job on campus and an internship, is not doing well. A few years ago he was prescribed antidepressants, but went off of them in less than a month because he didn't like how they made him feel. </p><p></p><p>He started to take them again last Christmas during finals to help him to concentrate. When he came down here, he ran out. He was just taking the ones that he had left from before. He started to feel weird because he was going off of them 'cold turkey'. I took him to see a doctor, but they would not give him more antidepressants because he needed to be followed and he was going back up north. He never saw a doctor up there.</p><p></p><p>He took it very badly when his older schizophrenic brother had to be served a restraining order due to violence and threatening my life. He told me that even if something feels sad it doesn't mean that it was the wrong thing to do. He had always planned on taking care of him when I passed. He worries about someone hurting his brother out on the streets. He even mentioned about wanting to commit suicide to me because life is just so sad when he was very upset. He refused to see a doctor. He never wants to have children because he does not want to pass down schizophrenia. He doesn't date and is very depressed.</p><p></p><p>During the last semester, the guy who he was renting a room from had to move without notice midsemester. He brought all of his belongings down here and told me that he was sleeping on a friend's couch. Places are difficult to find midsemester.</p><p></p><p>He was driving my parents 89 Camry and it would not pass smog. He got a ticket because he did not have tags. Then it broke down in San Francisco. He had to stay over 2 nights until Monday when mechanic shops opened. He wanted to stay in the car to keep it safe.</p><p></p><p>He told me that the mechanic would be able to see that he is living in his car. I said, "But you live at a friend's house"and he just laughed.</p><p></p><p>I decided to drive up a few days later and surprise him with a 2006 Camry. He insisted on paying me back and he loved the car. I tried to go with him that night to see some rooms. He just said..."No, mom".</p><p></p><p>He refuses to go to a doctor and struggled in school for the first time in his life. He was tested in 3rd grade to be the upper 2 percentile in I.Q. and started college at 16. He had no internet for studying or showers, etc. He went to the school library and gym. He talked about not being able to concentrate and was forgetful, which is a common complaint with depression. I texted him a view room listings, but he never followed through on any.</p><p></p><p>At the end of the semester he found out that he had not passed one of his classes. He was devasted. But, at least now rooms would start to become available. He speaks of not wanting to be around people. He does a lot of hiking when he is not working.</p><p></p><p>I have sent him at least 30 room listings. I text and ask if he has called any of them. He prefers texting to talking...while I am the inverse. He never answers me. </p><p></p><p>He says that he does not feel well. He has lived in his car about 3 or 4 months now. He will not go to see a doctor, go on medications, or get therapy. He will not look for a room. He is still working his 2 jobs.</p><p></p><p>I told him that a happy person would be depressed living in their car. He will not do anything to help the situation because of the depression. My brother's death threw him further into the depths.</p><p></p><p>I texted 2 difficult things to say today.</p><p></p><p>I told him that I did not surprise him with a nice car so that he could live in it.</p><p></p><p>I also said that I cannot handle the worry of having 2 sons homeless and living in their cars.</p><p></p><p>My heart is breaking. Is it just depression...or is it something worse? I have 2 sisters and one son with schizophrenia, plus a great uncle.</p><p></p><p>I am helpless to help him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 693465, member: 19245"] My middle son, who lives up north and is going to school and has one job on campus and an internship, is not doing well. A few years ago he was prescribed antidepressants, but went off of them in less than a month because he didn't like how they made him feel. He started to take them again last Christmas during finals to help him to concentrate. When he came down here, he ran out. He was just taking the ones that he had left from before. He started to feel weird because he was going off of them 'cold turkey'. I took him to see a doctor, but they would not give him more antidepressants because he needed to be followed and he was going back up north. He never saw a doctor up there. He took it very badly when his older schizophrenic brother had to be served a restraining order due to violence and threatening my life. He told me that even if something feels sad it doesn't mean that it was the wrong thing to do. He had always planned on taking care of him when I passed. He worries about someone hurting his brother out on the streets. He even mentioned about wanting to commit suicide to me because life is just so sad when he was very upset. He refused to see a doctor. He never wants to have children because he does not want to pass down schizophrenia. He doesn't date and is very depressed. During the last semester, the guy who he was renting a room from had to move without notice midsemester. He brought all of his belongings down here and told me that he was sleeping on a friend's couch. Places are difficult to find midsemester. He was driving my parents 89 Camry and it would not pass smog. He got a ticket because he did not have tags. Then it broke down in San Francisco. He had to stay over 2 nights until Monday when mechanic shops opened. He wanted to stay in the car to keep it safe. He told me that the mechanic would be able to see that he is living in his car. I said, "But you live at a friend's house"and he just laughed. I decided to drive up a few days later and surprise him with a 2006 Camry. He insisted on paying me back and he loved the car. I tried to go with him that night to see some rooms. He just said..."No, mom". He refuses to go to a doctor and struggled in school for the first time in his life. He was tested in 3rd grade to be the upper 2 percentile in I.Q. and started college at 16. He had no internet for studying or showers, etc. He went to the school library and gym. He talked about not being able to concentrate and was forgetful, which is a common complaint with depression. I texted him a view room listings, but he never followed through on any. At the end of the semester he found out that he had not passed one of his classes. He was devasted. But, at least now rooms would start to become available. He speaks of not wanting to be around people. He does a lot of hiking when he is not working. I have sent him at least 30 room listings. I text and ask if he has called any of them. He prefers texting to talking...while I am the inverse. He never answers me. He says that he does not feel well. He has lived in his car about 3 or 4 months now. He will not go to see a doctor, go on medications, or get therapy. He will not look for a room. He is still working his 2 jobs. I told him that a happy person would be depressed living in their car. He will not do anything to help the situation because of the depression. My brother's death threw him further into the depths. I texted 2 difficult things to say today. I told him that I did not surprise him with a nice car so that he could live in it. I also said that I cannot handle the worry of having 2 sons homeless and living in their cars. My heart is breaking. Is it just depression...or is it something worse? I have 2 sisters and one son with schizophrenia, plus a great uncle. I am helpless to help him. [/QUOTE]
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