Recoveringenabler,
Thank you for clarifying for me. I think what you said about not being able to tolerate the consequences of son's choices is indeed a big part of what drives me to feel we need to take him back home and care for him, even though it has never worked when we've done it in the past.
You mentioned that I know him best, and the boy I knew was smart and capable. However I don't feel like he is that person anymore and I don't really know him at this point. That probably contributes to the uncertainty.
Thank you for continuing to remind me that we need to try to care for ourselves. I know it is true, but it is easy to forget when things are chaotic.
