Reply to thread

Message

<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766093" data-attributes="member: 18958">Can your son go back to the area where you are all from? It it were me, I think I would subsidize the move. If there are few resources where you live and he does not have any kind of a support system or contacts, maybe it would make sense for him to go back home.I have done a great deal for my son, hoping to get him on his feet and headed in the right direction. (None of it worked.) But the thing is, I live where there is not extreme cold, and my son goes back and forth on the train, depending on what's more comfortable for him. I don't any more feel responsible for housing or feeding or anything else. I am immensely more happy since I stepped back, and began to refuse him entry into a property I own. I am immensely happier to admit to myself I don't want to see my son. I have outbreaks of grief and guilt, (around his birthday which was last week), and when he comes to my town with the expectation he can manipulate me into entry. He can't anymore. But I admit I feel great grief when I say no. But I do say no.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766093, member: 18958"] Can your son go back to the area where you are all from? It it were me, I think I would subsidize the move. If there are few resources where you live and he does not have any kind of a support system or contacts, maybe it would make sense for him to go back home. I have done a great deal for my son, hoping to get him on his feet and headed in the right direction. (None of it worked.) But the thing is, I live where there is not extreme cold, and my son goes back and forth on the train, depending on what's more comfortable for him. I don't any more feel responsible for housing or feeding or anything else. I am immensely more happy since I stepped back, and began to refuse him entry into a property I own. I am immensely happier to admit to myself I don't want to see my son. I have outbreaks of grief and guilt, (around his birthday which was last week), and when he comes to my town with the expectation he can manipulate me into entry. He can't anymore. But I admit I feel great grief when I say no. But I do say no. [/QUOTE]

Verification