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<blockquote data-quote="MommaTried24" data-source="post: 766100" data-attributes="member: 33205"><p>I wish I had a place for my son. My Alanon sponsor and her husband always had rental properties. They had places for her daughter to stay like you but they didn't do it. She is dead now. Been gone for several years. She was only 31 years old. They did like you and tried and tried and it never made a difference. She said her daughter would have just expected more and more and moved others in and trashed the place.</p><p></p><p>I haven't helped him in 4 years and I somehow feel like he just needs his own place to live. I got him an apartment about 8 years ago and he did ok for about 7 months. He was drinking heavily and it's a miracle he survived the drinking with the epilepsy but he did pay his rent. Then he moved in with my dad so he could live for free and drink more. The guilt of doing nothing is getting the best of me today. I just wanted he and I to be close and have a good relationship. I wanted to mean something to him but I don't. I am nothing but a means to an end for him. It breaks my heart. He is all I have left.</p><p></p><p>I feel like I should have never opened back communication with him so now I have to start all over from the bottom. I'm at my bottom today. My Alanon sponsor says do nothing. Do not intervene. Let go and let God. Trust God to protect him. That's easier said than done for me right now. I just don't understand what I did to deserve a son like this after everything he and I went through with the epilepsy and the brain surgery. Our life was hard but we were close before the alcoholism. He was my life.</p><p></p><p>I am alone now. I've been divorced for 14 years. Both of my parents are gone, no significant other, estranged family and still dealing with a son who could care less and blames me for where he is. I'm just wallowing in it today. Hopefully, this too shall pass but I just want to disappear right now. Thank you so much for taking the time to message me here Copa. You are helping to save me from myself today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MommaTried24, post: 766100, member: 33205"] I wish I had a place for my son. My Alanon sponsor and her husband always had rental properties. They had places for her daughter to stay like you but they didn't do it. She is dead now. Been gone for several years. She was only 31 years old. They did like you and tried and tried and it never made a difference. She said her daughter would have just expected more and more and moved others in and trashed the place. I haven't helped him in 4 years and I somehow feel like he just needs his own place to live. I got him an apartment about 8 years ago and he did ok for about 7 months. He was drinking heavily and it's a miracle he survived the drinking with the epilepsy but he did pay his rent. Then he moved in with my dad so he could live for free and drink more. The guilt of doing nothing is getting the best of me today. I just wanted he and I to be close and have a good relationship. I wanted to mean something to him but I don't. I am nothing but a means to an end for him. It breaks my heart. He is all I have left. I feel like I should have never opened back communication with him so now I have to start all over from the bottom. I'm at my bottom today. My Alanon sponsor says do nothing. Do not intervene. Let go and let God. Trust God to protect him. That's easier said than done for me right now. I just don't understand what I did to deserve a son like this after everything he and I went through with the epilepsy and the brain surgery. Our life was hard but we were close before the alcoholism. He was my life. I am alone now. I've been divorced for 14 years. Both of my parents are gone, no significant other, estranged family and still dealing with a son who could care less and blames me for where he is. I'm just wallowing in it today. Hopefully, this too shall pass but I just want to disappear right now. Thank you so much for taking the time to message me here Copa. You are helping to save me from myself today. [/QUOTE]
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