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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 766102" data-attributes="member: 18958">How very sad.I don't believe there is anything we can do. There are thousands of people who fight to get sober every day at AA and NA. Our adult children can do it.We have to mean something to ourselves. Part of it is letting ourselves be that, means to ends, to our children. Meal tickets. Things. We shouldn't be that to anybody. We are souls and not things. No.&nbsp; He is not all you have. You have yourself. And if you are a believer, you have G-d. Everything changed for me when I returned to my faith.Yes.Nothing! This is crazy talk. Stop indulging yourself. I was a single mom. I was estranged with EVERYBODY in my family. My son was the love of my life. I feel quite sure my son was as much to me as yours is to you..&nbsp; I came to see that I have a relationship to G-d that is bigger.I recognize this feeling. But it will get you nowhere. It will get me nowhere. It will get him nowhere.I believe we have the obligation to have well.&nbsp; It is part of my faith, but I have always felt this way. It's not just our children that have obligations. We have obligations.&nbsp; I believe in right and wrong. That there is always a better thing to do.&nbsp; I hold myself to that. I fail a lot. But then I get better at it.Focus on all that you are doing good for yourself.&nbsp; Al Anon is good. Being here is good. Trusting others who walk the same walk as you, is good.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 766102, member: 18958"] How very sad. I don't believe there is anything we can do. There are thousands of people who fight to get sober every day at AA and NA. Our adult children can do it. We have to mean something to ourselves. Part of it is letting ourselves be that, means to ends, to our children. Meal tickets. Things. We shouldn't be that to anybody. We are souls and not things. No. He is not all you have. You have yourself. And if you are a believer, you have G-d. Everything changed for me when I returned to my faith. Yes. Nothing! This is crazy talk. Stop indulging yourself. I was a single mom. I was estranged with EVERYBODY in my family. My son was the love of my life. I feel quite sure my son was as much to me as yours is to you.. I came to see that I have a relationship to G-d that is bigger. I recognize this feeling. But it will get you nowhere. It will get me nowhere. It will get him nowhere. I believe we have the obligation to have well. It is part of my faith, but I have always felt this way. It's not just our children that have obligations. We have obligations. I believe in right and wrong. That there is always a better thing to do. I hold myself to that. I fail a lot. But then I get better at it. Focus on all that you are doing good for yourself. Al Anon is good. Being here is good. Trusting others who walk the same walk as you, is good. [/QUOTE]

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