Hi there.
I don't know how to take away your pain. I truly wish I had magic words. I am sorry.
I can share what works best for me. Maybe something will help.
One thing I do is refusing to think of men as cute children. Life happens and often adults are not even close to the sweet little six year olds who adored us. Take down any young pictures you have of adult child. 26 is not even close to a child.
Second is to immerse yourself in your job, your house, your hobbies, your partner if you have one and most joyfully your other, kinder kids and their kids.
Often we spend so much time on our adults who choose wrong that we neglect everyone else who loves us and chooses right and that is so wrong to them and to ourselves. You know you can't fix the son who uses drugs. Torturing yourself will not help one bit.
I have found therapy and seeking positivity works wonders. Therapy in my opinion is very helpful in learning ways to cope that we didn't even know existed!
Love and hugs!
