Welcome
May I suggest that you try private therapy for yourself to help you with you hopefulness and sadness? I have done that for myself to try to set healthy boundaries WITH my son and for MY son. I just couldn't do it alone anymore. My therapist specializes in addiction because that is what we are dealing with - on year seven.
Of course the support and wisdom on this site has helped me tremendously. It's a long and treacherous and lonely road that we are on. It helps so much to have others to "talk" to and bounce ideas off of. There is no right or wrong answer. We all find our peace in different ways.
Glad you are here and hope that you get some guidance and find peace here.
