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Finally threw down the gauntlet....
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 44216" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Mikey, You and your wife are doing the right thing to say "Enough of this behavior! Get on the ball or face the consequences". You have come a long way and we all understand how you feel. "Am I being too harsh?" is a question all of us ask at one time or another. But the thing is, if you set a consequence you have to follow through with it no matter what.</p><p>If you don't you loose your credibility. Alanon, CODA & Parents Anonomus is a good place to go for face to face support. There is a learning curve with becoming a non-enabler. We all stumble from time to time, don't let it get to you. I am sure your son is seeing that you are comming to the end of your rope. He is going to play it out as long as you allow him to. When you no longer make compromises he wil see that you really truly mean business. I think your plan is a good one and I am glad your wife is comming onboard. It is harder for a mom to break the nurturing habits of taking responsibility for child to get to school and things like that. But she must ask herself when tempted to give in or compromise what the goal is and will what she is doing prolong the process. Hang in there you two have learned alot in a very short time. Your son is lucky to have two parents who care so much. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 44216, member: 2315"] Mikey, You and your wife are doing the right thing to say "Enough of this behavior! Get on the ball or face the consequences". You have come a long way and we all understand how you feel. "Am I being too harsh?" is a question all of us ask at one time or another. But the thing is, if you set a consequence you have to follow through with it no matter what. If you don't you loose your credibility. Alanon, CODA & Parents Anonomus is a good place to go for face to face support. There is a learning curve with becoming a non-enabler. We all stumble from time to time, don't let it get to you. I am sure your son is seeing that you are comming to the end of your rope. He is going to play it out as long as you allow him to. When you no longer make compromises he wil see that you really truly mean business. I think your plan is a good one and I am glad your wife is comming onboard. It is harder for a mom to break the nurturing habits of taking responsibility for child to get to school and things like that. But she must ask herself when tempted to give in or compromise what the goal is and will what she is doing prolong the process. Hang in there you two have learned alot in a very short time. Your son is lucky to have two parents who care so much. -RM [/QUOTE]
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