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Finally threw down the gauntlet....
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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 44347" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Kitty, re: <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">by the way, you did great. Just be ready, I can tell the future: He will be doing everything in his power to get you to kick him out. This way, A-he gets to leave, and B-it is your fault. </div></div></p><p></p><p>Funny you say that. After his first few sessions with his now <em><strong>former</strong></em> therapist, the doctor said the exact same thing - about 9 months ago! doctor said that difficult child would eventually work the situation so that we kick him out, and it will be our fault, so then he can "get mad" and act out with a clean conscience (even then, I guess he suspected ODD along with the ADD and SA).</p><p></p><p>Not going to do that. There <em>will</em> be rules, and they <em>will</em> be followed, or there <em>will</em> be consequences. Not going to kick him out, but if his life "sucks" now, wait until he only has a bare room, no computer, no car, no cellphone, no phone in his room, no more money loans, and a normal curfew that will get the police called if he breaks it, runs away, or does anything that I think is illegal or puts him at risk.</p><p></p><p>If he leaves, he's going to leave because he chooses to leave the family behind. I'll be damned if I give him any valid excuse to justify his self pity. He follows the rules (and they'll be fair), or suffer the consequences, or leave.</p><p></p><p>Strangely, I now feel both a mixture of anger and relief. Is that sick or what?</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 44347, member: 3579"] Kitty, re: <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">by the way, you did great. Just be ready, I can tell the future: He will be doing everything in his power to get you to kick him out. This way, A-he gets to leave, and B-it is your fault. </div></div> Funny you say that. After his first few sessions with his now [i][b]former[/b][/i] therapist, the doctor said the exact same thing - about 9 months ago! doctor said that difficult child would eventually work the situation so that we kick him out, and it will be our fault, so then he can "get mad" and act out with a clean conscience (even then, I guess he suspected ODD along with the ADD and SA). Not going to do that. There [i]will[/i] be rules, and they [i]will[/i] be followed, or there [i]will[/i] be consequences. Not going to kick him out, but if his life "sucks" now, wait until he only has a bare room, no computer, no car, no cellphone, no phone in his room, no more money loans, and a normal curfew that will get the police called if he breaks it, runs away, or does anything that I think is illegal or puts him at risk. If he leaves, he's going to leave because he chooses to leave the family behind. I'll be damned if I give him any valid excuse to justify his self pity. He follows the rules (and they'll be fair), or suffer the consequences, or leave. Strangely, I now feel both a mixture of anger and relief. Is that sick or what? Mikey [/QUOTE]
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