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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 702713" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Copa, thanks for sharing with us. I think what you told your son was the truth with love. I'm glad he's willing to now see a therapist.</p><p>My concern and note that my concern is for YOU, is your son is only willing to do this at the 11th hour. I appreciate M's concerns, however I wonder if it's just fear that is driving them, fear of what happened to his brother will happen to your son.</p><p>This is such a delicate dance. How much to help and is it really helping or is your son continuing to manipulate. If your son truly wants to change then he will put forth the effort to work with his therapist and stop using drugs and only time will answer that.</p><p>The ups and downs, twist and turns that our adult children bring into our lives is something we all could easily just close the door on only it's not that easy. We say "that's it!, I'm done" and we give them another chance. Some might say we are weak for doing this, I don't think that's true. The timing of when we are truly done is very personal and unique, there are many contributing factors. I lost count of how many "2nd" chances I gave my son.</p><p>My heart goes out to Copa as you continue to traverse this journey. One thing I do know for sure is you have grown much stronger than when you first came here and you are putting yourself first. </p><p>I'm keeping good thoughts for your son that he truly will put in the work needed to turn his life around.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you dear lady!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 702713, member: 18516"] Copa, thanks for sharing with us. I think what you told your son was the truth with love. I'm glad he's willing to now see a therapist. My concern and note that my concern is for YOU, is your son is only willing to do this at the 11th hour. I appreciate M's concerns, however I wonder if it's just fear that is driving them, fear of what happened to his brother will happen to your son. This is such a delicate dance. How much to help and is it really helping or is your son continuing to manipulate. If your son truly wants to change then he will put forth the effort to work with his therapist and stop using drugs and only time will answer that. The ups and downs, twist and turns that our adult children bring into our lives is something we all could easily just close the door on only it's not that easy. We say "that's it!, I'm done" and we give them another chance. Some might say we are weak for doing this, I don't think that's true. The timing of when we are truly done is very personal and unique, there are many contributing factors. I lost count of how many "2nd" chances I gave my son. My heart goes out to Copa as you continue to traverse this journey. One thing I do know for sure is you have grown much stronger than when you first came here and you are putting yourself first. I'm keeping good thoughts for your son that he truly will put in the work needed to turn his life around. ((HUGS)) to you dear lady!! [/QUOTE]
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