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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 674338" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Serenity, I am so grateful you posted today. I miss you so much on FOO. Your strength and integrity. Your direct and true voice. </p><p></p><p>I am dealing with betrayal today. A great pain descended on me yesterday, and I believe it has to do in the main with betrayals my whole life long and fear of it still.</p><p></p><p>What comes first, the chicken or the egg? Have I had the misfortune of being related to people who betray? Or is there something about me that draws for this.</p><p></p><p>Even my son, betrays me. I saw it first when we went to live in a foreign country. We were living with a family in a Pueblo. When the family united against me, my son sided with them and he threw me under the bus. Fast forward to now, it is still the same. Are you a racist, my son asks? When he knows the truth of it. </p><p></p><p>I begged my son not to write to my nieces and to reveal family information. He did so anyway. </p><p> </p><p>My Mother. </p><p></p><p>My Mother never tried to have a separate relationship with my son</p><p></p><p>But she did with my sister. Their relationship was entirely separate from my own with either of them. This was the accepted pattern. I would call her. My mother. </p><p></p><p>She would be dressing to go to meet my sister and her family at a restaurant or on her way to my sister's house for dinner. OK. I understand that I lived 5 hours away. But there are families that would have invited the missing child. I was almost never invited. I accepted it at the time. Just the way things were.</p><p></p><p>Now all of the pain is rising up. I feel right now that I have no one and that I never had anyone. It is a sad way to feel. I do not know why I feel this way now.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for posting this thread, Serenity. I have missed you.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 674338, member: 18958"] Dear Serenity, I am so grateful you posted today. I miss you so much on FOO. Your strength and integrity. Your direct and true voice. I am dealing with betrayal today. A great pain descended on me yesterday, and I believe it has to do in the main with betrayals my whole life long and fear of it still. What comes first, the chicken or the egg? Have I had the misfortune of being related to people who betray? Or is there something about me that draws for this. Even my son, betrays me. I saw it first when we went to live in a foreign country. We were living with a family in a Pueblo. When the family united against me, my son sided with them and he threw me under the bus. Fast forward to now, it is still the same. Are you a racist, my son asks? When he knows the truth of it. I begged my son not to write to my nieces and to reveal family information. He did so anyway. My Mother. My Mother never tried to have a separate relationship with my son But she did with my sister. Their relationship was entirely separate from my own with either of them. This was the accepted pattern. I would call her. My mother. She would be dressing to go to meet my sister and her family at a restaurant or on her way to my sister's house for dinner. OK. I understand that I lived 5 hours away. But there are families that would have invited the missing child. I was almost never invited. I accepted it at the time. Just the way things were. Now all of the pain is rising up. I feel right now that I have no one and that I never had anyone. It is a sad way to feel. I do not know why I feel this way now. Thank you for posting this thread, Serenity. I have missed you. COPA [/QUOTE]
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