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FOO bad affects on our own children...did it happen?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 674510" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I know why I was. I had challenges and a difficult temperament even as an infant and my mother was selfish and so sensitive she actually felt I, as an infant, was rejecting her. Of course, she did not bond with me at birth either...she told me that over and over again. And I also am not a people pleaser. When I felt something was out of sorts, I said so. My brother was not mistreated. He had no reason to feel bad or rebel against Mother. My Sister was very neglected as a child by Mother, but she is a classic people pleaser (except when it comes to me *shrug*) and did not call my mother out of her b*********. And s he had no little sister to try to protect who would turn on her over and over again.</p><p></p><p>I think abusers justify their abuse to themselves. In reality, there is no excuse for rejecting and picking on a child. But most abusers think, or HAVE to think, they are the good guys. And sometimes their non-ostracized kids decide to ignore what really happened and go along with the abuser. Ah, so glad to be out of the loop...my loony-bin FOO. There is so much peace in my life with them gone and I don't have to constantly walk on eggshells when I talk to anyone else in my life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 674510, member: 1550"] I know why I was. I had challenges and a difficult temperament even as an infant and my mother was selfish and so sensitive she actually felt I, as an infant, was rejecting her. Of course, she did not bond with me at birth either...she told me that over and over again. And I also am not a people pleaser. When I felt something was out of sorts, I said so. My brother was not mistreated. He had no reason to feel bad or rebel against Mother. My Sister was very neglected as a child by Mother, but she is a classic people pleaser (except when it comes to me *shrug*) and did not call my mother out of her b*********. And s he had no little sister to try to protect who would turn on her over and over again. I think abusers justify their abuse to themselves. In reality, there is no excuse for rejecting and picking on a child. But most abusers think, or HAVE to think, they are the good guys. And sometimes their non-ostracized kids decide to ignore what really happened and go along with the abuser. Ah, so glad to be out of the loop...my loony-bin FOO. There is so much peace in my life with them gone and I don't have to constantly walk on eggshells when I talk to anyone else in my life. [/QUOTE]
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